Supposed to take ex girlfriend's virginity?

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We're 17/18.

This was my first relationship. We were very happy the first 6 months, and we lasted 9 months but life caused some changes and she just got too busy and felt obligated to hang with me. She lost interest in the relationship. We took things a little too seriously maybe, but either way. She wanted space (doesnt want to see other guys, legit wants to focus on herself and friends). I'm still in love with her.

She wanted to lose her virginity to me so badly, me specifically (Im also a virgin). We tried once but it didn't work out, although we still had a good time. After that, there was summer vacation and then things just got in the way and we couldnt hang or she was too busy or wasnt in the mood.

We've been broken up for around 2 months with little contact, but it's very slowly starting again but nothing intense. 
I regret this so much. Now she's going to lose her virginity to some other guy in the future, when she used to want me specifically. It was supposed to be our thing, together. How do I get over this? 
I'm not gonna get past this for a very long time :/ we had so much love and feelings for eachother, now things are so different and she doesn't even want to make time for me. She'd rather focus on her own life, which I partly understand. It just sucks though.

athleticscholar · Answer

Look at it this way. If you were near the end of the relationship and lost your virginity to her, wouldn't it be awful if she ended up breaking up with you two weeks later? Sex brings two people closer together. You already have strong feelings for her and they would be even stronger if you had sex. Then imagine that being thrown into the garbage.

If she lost interest in the relationship, no matter what things were in the way, I don't think she was right for you, nor you right for her. It may be best to keep her at a distance; maybe hanging out with her again will just add to the misery. Keep your virginity for someone else who you can have a more successful relationship with, and you won't regret it. Only 50% of 18 year olds have lost their virginity (it's true), so there's nothing to be ashamed about waiting longer for your next relationship.

? · Answer

I hate to say it but it just is part and parcel of growing up.  And she has every 'right' to change her mind, the chemistry wasn't there and you can't make that happen.  She changed and thats ok.
Try not to think about the virgin, not virgin thing, thats pretty mechanical.  Women are way more than losing their v to some guy.  It is a pride thing of being the one?  That really is reserved for the womans choice and her feeling have to match her love in order for it to all be a memory for a lifetime.  Marriage is supposed to be what it is waited for.  But today most don't care.  
If you love her, let her go, mind body and soul.  Because she needs to be true to her feelings.  And it does suck that it doesn't stay the same.

Anonymous · Answer

I just left a 3 year relation ship, im 17 0.0 but it took me too long realize we got along and we had feelings for eachother, but we werent the ones for eachother. I found someone else that I never thought id ever have, its even better! He was devastated and he is already talking to other girls and is going to ask one out. So dont give up, I am positive there is someone else out there waiting for you. :) you just have to look in the right places and get to know people! And ps: (your bf or gf should always leave time for you!) she mustve not felt that much or she was just very unfair to you, get better. :)

? · Answer

Sounds like you just want bragging rights to popping her cherry and you really do not love her.

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