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We were together for 9 months, but she got too busy and lost interest and things got all weird and complicated. The breakup was more on her side, but we both knew things had gotten bad between us.

Anyway, its been around 4 months since the breakup, and we still see eachother around school and frequently say hi as we walk past. I've noticed, whenever we do casually speak in person for a brief conversation lasting like 2 minutes or something, she observes me so much. When I'm speaking, she looks at different parts of my body and scans. Like she notices my clothing and looks at different parts of me. It's odd because it's not like she's checking me out. What does this mean? Like she looks at me ALOT during the conversation. Even a female friend pointed it out. For example, there was me, her and a teacher. I was speaking to the teacher and she was only looking at me.

I don't think she misses me that much, she's very busy and I think it was good for both of us to breakup. Like I don't think she regrets it that much, she's a practical thinker. I mean, of course we miss eachother a bit.

What could this mean?

I can normally tell when a girl is checking me out or whatever, but this is different and im having trouble understanding.

Anyone experienced anything similar?

In terms of their ex partners, do girls ever try and impress their current boyfriend?

I know girls don't like to be open and prefer not to talk about how many partners they've had and etc. But are there some that do that?

My recent ex girlfriend would tell me about guys that had crushes on her, or vaguely talk about past sexual experiences. But when we were first hooking up and her hands were down my pants, she wasn't that good. (But she greatly improved as the relationship went on). And this wasn't just a personal preference. I noticed as time went on her skills were replicated from porn.

Like, what im asking is, would they ever try to impress their boyfriend to seem like they're wanted and etc by talking about this stuff?

She was very attracted to me, and probably assumed I had many partners or something (she was my first, which i told her probably 2 months into the relationship)

I know she had an ex boyfriend or two, but she went the furthest with me.

I'm just curious if girls would do this, because I'm not sure how true it all was.

and she's not a fake or shallow person.

I was with my ex for 9 months. We had amazing times together and everything, but the last 3 months things declined and she got busy and stressed and started being cold with me. No one cheated, no one did anything extreme. She broke it off with me, even though we both knew it was bad.

We've been broken up for 3 months and I'm mostly over her, and I've just noticed that I no longer find her physically attractive anymore. Even with makeup on. I wasnt insanely attracted to her before knowing her, but I found her more and more attractive as time went on (also i think she changed a bit). I see her nearly everyday but we dont really speak.

I think she may be the same with me, 1 month before we broke up she was obsessed with me, complimenting me on all my physical features, saying I'm hot, etc. and she's told me multiple times, yet about a month later when things were going badly she vaguely stated that I had "changed" both physically and personality wise. And when I asked she didn't really elaborate much.

How does this happen?

Why do we lose attraction in appearances?

The reason she wanted to meet me was because she was physically attracted to me, she knew nothing about me.

Shes 17, im 18, in high school. We had an awesome relationship in the beginning, but things just got weird, things changed life got in the way etc. etc. we broke up in November. She wanted to, but I agreed that things were bad. From that time until January I was depressed and confused about the breakup. We see eachother in school nearly every day, but dont have the same classes.

However now I'm pretty much all good, I've been going out, socialising, flirting, nearly hooked up. I'm happy. She said she wanted to be friends when we broke up (and she actually meant it).

However, whenever we talk (very infrequent), it feels very...strained. I dunno, it feels like there's this boundary between us. I've tried just being myself and saying things that I would to a friend but it can be weird.

Another difficult thing is her reactions. Sometimes she'll message me and be all happy and we have a decent conversation, or if we say hi to eachother in school it's positive. But then other times she barely puts emotion into it and isn't too responsive, and I feel like she hates me or something hahah. It's probably just her mood, but it really affects me and makes me feel like trying to be friends with her is not wise.

I haven't been trying too hard, and nor has she, we've kept our distance and etc. It's just confusing. Sometimes I see her looking/staring at me from a distance, and other times she doesn't even acknowledge me. I'll admit, I've also done this. maybe she's mad at my lack of effort.

Has anyone else been through this?

I'm leaving in like 4 months and never coming back, I still have old gifts to give her, yet I don't feel like we're going to ever actually hang out again. This doesn't bother me too much, but still...

I'm about 5'9 and taller than both my parents. Dad's about 5'7, mum is slightly shorter. My older brother's similar to me, but maybe leaning towards 5'10.

I grew slightly over the summer holidays (didnt know but ex gf commented).

During this time, i was extremely horny. Like, extremely. And more hair was growing.

I also took up stretching and yoga which helps increase height so that could be a reason.

After that things were normal for months.

Now, the past week I've been insanely horny. Also my appetite has increased ALOT. Some more hair grew i think.

Is it possible that im still growing in height?

I thought I was pretty much done growing at 18, but are these signs of growth? more testosterone making me more aroused, hungrier and hairer?

I'm about 5'9 and taller than both my parents. My older brothers maybe 5'10

I grew slightly over the summer holidays (didnt know but ex gf commented).

During this time, i was extremely horny. Like, extremely. And more hair was growing.

After that things were normal.

Now, just these past few days I've been insanely horny. Also today my appetite has grown.

Is it possible that im still growing?

I thought I was pretty much done growing at 18, but are these signs of growth? more testosterone making me more aroused?

I'm an 18 year old guy living alone for the last year of high school. I was in a good relationship with a girl for 9 months but things didnt work out.

I have a very high sex drive (which also didnt help when my gf had no sex drive at all the last months of the telationship).

I don't want another relationship, just friends with benefits or something. I've been told girls find me attractive.

the problem is: there aren't that many girls I'm sexually interested in, and the ones that I am interested in like other people.

i feel like no one would be willing to have casual sex (or at least oral and etc) with someone they're not dating because most people are still Virgins.

what do I do?

even though girls find me attractive, I don't think that there are many options for what I want.

I'm very sexually frustrated.

We're all 18, in the same school and we're all good friends.

It'd be me (male) and them (females).

They want to come round to my place and hang and we're gonna drink.

It's kinda a fantasy of mine to just undress and fool around with them. Not even sex, but just sexual stuff with eachother. Or even just a "ill show you mine if you show me yours" type thing.

is this a bad idea?

It's not a planned 3some haha, but they're coming over and we're hanging and drinking and I have a stripping/drinking game i could bring out.

I just want to have some fun.....clothless.

Has anyone ever initiated anything like this, and how? and is it a bad idea to do stuff like this with 2 close friends?

We're 17/18.

This was my first relationship. We were very happy the first 6 months, and we lasted 9 months but life caused some changes and she just got too busy and felt obligated to hang with me. She lost interest in the relationship. We took things a little too seriously maybe, but either way. She wanted space (doesnt want to see other guys, legit wants to focus on herself and friends). I'm still in love with her.

She wanted to lose her virginity to me so badly, me specifically (Im also a virgin). We tried once but it didn't work out, although we still had a good time. After that, there was summer vacation and then things just got in the way and we couldnt hang or she was too busy or wasnt in the mood.

We've been broken up for around 2 months with little contact, but it's very slowly starting again but nothing intense.

I regret this so much. Now she's going to lose her virginity to some other guy in the future, when she used to want me specifically. It was supposed to be our thing, together. How do I get over this?

I'm not gonna get past this for a very long time :/ we had so much love and feelings for eachother, now things are so different and she doesn't even want to make time for me. She'd rather focus on her own life, which I partly understand. It just sucks though.

she dumped me cause she needed space and her life was too busy and she just lost interest. We discussed it though and I agreed.

1-2 months go by and I was misinterpreting it all and taking it very personally, this made me very angry and I didnt contact her at all (also we were both busy and didnt see eachother in the hallways or anything).

She tried to be playfully friendly once and I was just neutral, but still talked to her. I realised just a few days ago i was angry for all the wrong reasons and began to see things from her perspective. I never showed anger towards her, but i definitely looked annoyed/like i didnt want to speak to her again.

Weeks later she initiates a conversation sending a message just asking where I was (its the holiday now). I replied normally and asked her questions trying to keep the convo going. I wanted to just be as normal as I could. The replies from both of us came hours later each time as we weren't online at the same time. I replied to one of her messages asking her something, and she's been online multiple times yet hasnt even looked or replied to it. Its been a day or two.

I thought she was busy, but it really isnt much to read, one sentence. And I know she's most likely replied to her friends. Every time I've logged on it says she was online 20 mins ago or something and there's nothing. It seems like im overreacting, but its the 21st century where everyone can reply in hours, if they're not busy. And she's obviously not busy.

It just annoys me. I know i've been aloof and away and passively angry, but its understandable. how can you not take a breakup personally? And she even initiated the conversation, yet she has no care to respond when I do reply. I thought she would be more interested and care.

I dont understand what she wants. She said she wants to remain friends. I understand I haven't put effort in the last month, but we've both been busy. She hasnt just been sitting around waiting, she was the one who called it off. but when I do try and put effort in she doesnt reply.

anyone got any ideas?

thanks

We are 17 and 18, we were together for 9 months. Things were great for the first 6 months, then the summer came and after that things got busy and things went downhill for us. She said she lost interest. This is partly because her life is very busy and stressful but also I was the only one trying anymore so at times i probably seemed too attached. But basically her main reasons were that she wanted to spend time with friends and study, she felt like there was too much pressure to be with me. (I wasnt obsessed or anything, but I still wanted to hang out in the last few months of the relationship).

We talked openly and discussed the situation and my concerns and realised things weren't great, but we didn't know what to do. She still showed some signs of interest and wasnt able to decide what she wanted, so we mutually decided to take a break, with possibility of friends with benefits or something. This turned into nearly a month of barely any talking and complete awkwardness with eachother, ignoring eachother as we walked past in the hallways.

Eventually, she told me she thought that we should break up and I agreed and went along with it.

For a month, I haven't initiated any form of contact, no messages, texts, nothing. I dont even look at her facebook page or anything. I've hardly seen her in school, and when I have she's tried to be playfully friendly. I didnt really react alot and was just neutral. One time she playfull squeezed my waist and initiated a conversation, which is kinda what we used to do when together. Either way, it was friendly. I was passive. She then messaged me last night, and I replied 2 hours later and decided to just act normal.

My question is, why does she want to be friends with me? She didn't dump me for anyone else but I don't understand. Is she just too busy for a relationship but still wants me in her life? I can tell she cares about me and what I'm doing still, I practically ignored her and we have no idea what each of us are doing in our lives atm.

I'm just confused.

we were together for nearly 9 months and we're both in high school. The first 6-7 months were great and she was very interested in me, however things changed and she lost interest and life got busy and etc.

The last 3 months weren't great at all and I also lost some feelings because of the way she was acting.

The breakup was mutual, but more desired by her. I'm not really in love with her anymore, but the memories i cant get over, i get so nostalgic.

But the thing I feel the worst about is that she wanted to lose her virginity so badly to me (Im also a virgin). She was saying all these things and was saying "itll hurt, but with you i can deal with the pain" and all these nice things. We never ended up having sex. I personally dont mind not having sex, but im talking about the emotion behind it. She wanted me before, but in the recent months she barely even wanted to makeout. It was supposed to be between us, but now she's going to lose it to some other guy in the future and itll be their special thing. I dont care about my virginity, its hers that I care about.

We were together for nearly 9 months, everything was great except these last few months. She's become more busy (so have I) and she said she lost interest. School and busy life was one of the reasons, however I believe a big reason she lost interest in me was because I was always available, always initiating the conversations and I put her on a pedastal making myself weaker. The sexual stuff stopped over the last few months, even though she was still intimate with cuddling and holding and etc. ANYWAY, we mutually decided to take a break and see what happens. Even though it was mutually decided, it was basically her that wanted space and was losing interest in the relationship and felt like it was a burden to hang out with me

I didn't beg or say not to, I kinda felt like the relationship was going downhill too (but mainly because of her lack of interest). After a week of confusion from myself, I've concluded I still love her. I dont need her, but I want her. For the first week after our mutually decided break, we were ignoring eachother completely, it seemed like we hated eachother (we see eachother in the school halls at times). It was pretty tense and awkward, we were complete strangers (even though we decided to still be friendly) this was because we were both confused (and still are). I eventually ended up texting her apologising for being a weird asshole and asking if we could start acknowledging eachother's existence again, and she replied withinn 2 minutes agreeing saying "it would be nice to talk again".

Then a few days later it was our 9 month anniversary, I wasn';t going to send a message but friends persuaded me so i simply sent "Whatever ends up happening, it's 9 months today". She replied 2 hrs later with "yeah....it is."

Ever since the break we havent spoken in person and hardly by text, however now I've noticed her looking/paying attention to me twice. Both were from a distance. I'm trying the no contact rule, however I feel like I'm now the mean one as I'm not really paying attention to her (even though I sent the message asking to).

I don't know if her interest is back, but she's not ignoring me anymore and i've caught her looking/paying attention to me twice. I'm usually with a friend or doing something so I don't look at her. and just try and continue doing what I'm doing. I think she is under the impression that I am uncertain about my feelings for her too (but I'm not).

Today I said "hey" to her as walking past her in the hall and she responded. This happened twice. Should I continue with no/limited contact?

and for how long? Her birthday is in 2 weeks (I already bought her the gifts too).

It may seem like I don't want to be in a relationship with her anymore

We were together for nearly 9 months, everything was great except these last few months. She's become more busy (so have I) and she said she lost interest. School and busy life was one of the reasons, however I believe a big reason she lost interest in me was because I was always available, always initiating the conversations and I put her on a pedastal making myself weaker. The sexual stuff stopped over the last few months, even though she was still intimate with cuddling and holding and etc. ANYWAY, we mutually decided to take a break and see what happens. Even though it was mutually decided, it was basically her that wanted space and was losing interest in the relationship and felt like it was a burden to hang out with me

I didn't beg or say not to, I kinda felt like the relationship was going downhill too (but mainly because of her lack of interest). After a week of confusion from myself, I've concluded I still love her. I dont need her, but I want her. For the first week after our mutually decided break, we were ignoring eachother completely, it seemed like we hated eachother (we see eachother in the school halls at times). It was pretty tense and awkward, we were complete strangers (even though we decided to still be friendly) this was because we were both confused (and still are). I eventually ended up texting her apologising for being a weird asshole and asking if we could start acknowledging eachother's existence again, and she replied within 2 minutes apoligising and agreeing saying "it would be nice to talk again".

Then a few days later it was our 9 month anniversary, I wasn';t going to send a message but friends persuaded me so i simply sent "Whatever ends up happening, it's 9 months today". She replied 2 hrs later with "yeah....it is."

Ever since the break we havent spoken in person and hardly by text, however now I've noticed her looking/paying attention to me twice. Both were from a distance. I'm trying the no contact rule, however I feel like I'm now the mean one as I'm not really paying attention to her (even though I sent the message asking to).

I don't know if her interest is back, but she's not ignoring me anymore and i've caught her looking/paying attention to me twice. I'm usually with a friend or doing something so I don't look at her. and just try and continue doing what I'm doing. I think she is under the impression that I am uncertain about my feelings for her too (but I'm not).

Should I continue with no contact?

and for how long? Her birthday is in 2 weeks (I already bought her the gifts too).

It may seem like I don't want to be in a relationship with her anymore

We were together for nearly 9 months, everything was great except these last few months. She's become more busy (so have I) and she said she lost interest. School and busy life was one of the reasons, however I believe a big reason she lost interest in me was because I was always available, always initiating the conversations and I put her on a pedastal making myself weaker. The sexual stuff stopped over the last few months, even though she was still intimate with cuddling and holding and etc. ANYWAY, we mutually decided to take a break and see what happens.

I didn't beg or say not to, I kinda felt like the relationship was going downhill too (but mainly because of her lack of interest). After a week of confusion from myself, I've concluded I still love her. I dont need her, but I want her. For the first week after our mutually decided break, we were ignoring eachother completely, it seemed like we hated eachother (we see eachother in the school halls at times). It was pretty tense and awkward, we were complete strangers (even though we decided to still be friendly) this was because we were both confused (and still are). I eventually ended up texting her apologising for being a weird asshole and asking if we could start acknowledging eachother's existence again, and she replied within 2 minutes apoligising and agreeing saying "it would be nice to talk again".

Then a few days later it was our 9 month anniversary, I wasn';t going to send a message but friends persuaded me so i simply sent "Whatever ends up happening, it's 9 months today". She replied 2 hrs later with "yeah....it is."

Ever since the break we havent spoken in person and hardly by text, however now I've noticed her looking/paying attention to me twice. Both were from a distance. I'm trying the no contact rule, however I feel like I'm now the mean one as I'm not really paying attention to her (even though I sent the message asking to).

I don't know if her interest is back, but she's not ignoring me anymore and i've caught her looking/paying attention to me twice. I'm usually with a friend or doing something so I don't look at her. and just try and continue doing what I'm doing. I think she is under the impression that I am uncertain about my feelings for her too (but I'm not).

Should I continue with no contact?

and for how long? Her birthday is in 2 weeks (I already bought her the gifts too).

It may seem like I don't want to be in a relationship with her anymore.

together for 8 months, but things have gotten very busy this year and she feels like she has lost interest and needs space. she wants to Hang with friends and focus on other things, she said she sometimes feels pressured to hang with me. We discussed this and didnt know what to do, we discussed breaking up but neither of us could decide, there's still some interest from her, but not alot. we agreed to take a break but for a week we ignored and avoided eachother purposely and it was very tense, it seemed like we hated eachother. so I messaged her apologising for being weird and asking if we could start acknowledging eachother again as she responded positively and within 2 minutes. Yesterday was our 9 month anniversary and I didn't want to say it to her but friends persuaded me so I simply said "whatever ends up happening, it's 9 months today". she saw but didn't reply, what's worse is it was sent at 12 03 am so it seems a day late. Either way, what should I do about the whole thing?

Me and my gf were together for nearly 9 months. The first 6 were great, we got on amazingly we're both in our final years of high school. However, as the new school year arrived things drastically changed between us as she got busier and stopped putting in effort and long story short she's lost interest. She wanted to lose her virginity to me so badly, and now she doesn't even want to make out with me. (we never did have sex (not that its a huge deal, but we really wanted to).

When we would see eachother in school briefly things were fine, however no communication was made apart from that and hangouts decreased alot.

After these gradual changes and my doubts, she was acting weird so we had a discussion and she said she's lost interest. I still love her, but the relationship was going nowhere. She still showed some signs of interest and said she still had some interest in me and we were both acting normal with eachother. We couldnt decide whether we wanted to break up or take a break, as we both knew things weren't great, but didn't really want to let go of eachother. When I asked her honestly she didn't know, i could tell it was kinda a hard decision. However, she was partly open to it.

EVENTUALLY we reached the idea of taking a break. Single, live our lives but maybe occasionally hangout and hook up.

Ever since that discussion and agreement we haven't spoken at all (expected), and each time we walk past or are near eachother in school we are both VERY cold and ignore eachother's existence entirely, as if we've had a bad argument or absolutely hate eachother.

I really don't know what to do. I love her, but the relationship wasnt going anywhere but downhill. I don't mind not being with her as much, but i feel like we are unfinished, like we still have things to do together and time to spend. I don't want the relationship to end on such a bad note of it withering away and just becoming another failed relationship.

This break is confusing me so much as I can't tell what her real intentions are. I don't even know what my intentions are , as 1 minute i want to hookup with random people, and then the next i miss her so much.

The logical thing to do is to breakup to end this confusion and mood swings and awkwardness between us. I can be single, but the idea is I feel like we haven't finished. I'll forever feel like we never got to have that conversation, or do this, or do that. We can still do it as friends, but not in the same way.

Im so confused. What should I do?

We are currently on a break, but we've been together for 9 months.

She used to compliment me alot, however this was replaced with teasing .

My penis is big and she always compliments it, however she randomly said I have small balls.

(She likes big ones).

I would always compliment her and reassure her on her insecurities, but she would tease me (not all the time, but I would never tease her).

my balls are average-ish size i think, but whenever we would do stuff together they would shrink and go tight. I feel like I want to prove to her that they're not as small as she thinks. It sounds so immature I know, but it's bothering me. She made me insecure with it and it's hurting me because I know she likes big ones, so it's making me feel like I'm less.

We were together for nearly 9 months, im 18 shes nearly 17. Everything was great up until the last few months where she has gotten very busy, and i've had more doubts than before. Doubts about her feelings and mine. She stopped putting effort in, never started conversations so I stopped. I always felt like I was bothering her. Sexual activity declined INTENSELY over these past 3 months, we've been hanging out much less on weekends and we hardly see eachother in school.

However, when we did see eachother and hang out, things were fine. She would be very cuddly and want to touch me and snuggle and all lovey dovey, just no sex, no making out.

Things got really bad as we were avoiding eachother after a weekend we spent together, until we finally talked and it was confirmed that she lost interest. She feels pressured to be with me when she would rather be studying or be with friends. However, she was indecisive as to what she wanted. (So was I) We discussed what to do, and she couldnt decide as she still has a slight interest im guessing.

We finally decided to take a break, live our own lives, but occasionally maybe hangout or hookup with eachother. The conversation ended fine, and I was actually the happiest I have been in awhile, we were acting normal with eachother.

But now I'm questioning if she would actually gain any interest back at all. When we were exploring different ideas, she briefly hinted at "we do our thing, we see other people or whatever" (along the lines of that), however when she explored the idea of an open relationship, I informed her that that means we're together but see other people (she misunderstood the meaning of the term 'open relationship') and she quickly withdrew and was like "oh, no" like she didnt want us to see other people.

What does all this mean?

I know she has lost interest, and has a slight interest, but I can't tell if our agreement was just a softer version of a breakup. (we discussed breaking up and were undecided but she was partly open to it, even though she said it would be hard and she would miss cuddling and my D and everything)

We've been together for nearly 9 months and in the first 4-5 months we were very into eachother, loads of compliments, she was very sexual, even more so than me at times. She wanted to lose her virginity with me and really wanted to do it. Then summer vacation came, didnt see eachother for 2 months but spoke alot. The feelings continued as it was long distance.

Now that school has started (september), we have both gotten very busy, her especially. She focuses alot on school and often gets stressed.

Ever since school started our sexual activity has declined intensely.

Now we don't do anything sexual, and it's been this way for about 3 months. The last time we did something sexual, she pleased me but wasnt in the mood (I didnt force her).

This weekend we went away together, yet we didn't do ANYTHING sexual. There were other people in the house, but in the past she would've at least been tempted.

We tried, but she wasnt in the mood and i couldnt do anything for her.

We are still very intimate with cuddling, touching eachother, stroking.

But she told me she has had no sex drive. I understand that stress and school would be the cause, however I have also noticed since school started that she has this weird crush/obsession about this guy. (I know him, but we dont hang out, nor does she actually speak to him)

For about 3 months, his name comes up in conversation maybe twice a week and she makes comments on him (sometimes negative). Basically somehow he comes up in conversation. I know she finds him attractive, but this is getting annoying.

The weekend that we were away together, we were both working on computers and occasionally browsed the internet of course, as I looked up she was looking at his pictures.

I know she wouldnt cheat, but I know shes interested in him.

What do i do?

I feel like bringing it up. Its so confusing cause she's still very touchy and feely with me, yet has no sex drive. Its not like she ALWAYS talks about him, but his name comes up ALOT. Enough for me to get bothered by it.

Its been 3 months and she still seems into him, at least what it looks like to me.

What do I do?

The lack of sex, and a number of other things + this potential crush is making me frustrated and making me emotionally disconnect myself from her.

I feel like bringing it up, but it would seem very random and out of context. I was about to bring it up when i saw her looking at his pics, or at least make a comment but I didn't.