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Why is my girlfriend always negative?
Sorry if this is long
My girlfriend and I are in a long distance relationship. I love this girl more than anything in my life. We've been dating for 8 months, but she's always so negative and I'm positive most of the times.
She asked me if I was tired of talking to her and I told her not at all. Then she has all these negative thoughts and asked me if there was anything I hate about her and believes every couple has those things that they hate about each other? I told her there's nothing I hate about her and that I really love and care about her, but she doesn't believe me.
Then we had our first argument, she told me that I don't understand her at all, and I told her that why you have to be so negative. She believes if you hate something your feelings will change. Then conv ended with her saying "you don't understand me" and I replied "I do understand you and I really care about you".
I don't get what I did wrong? Why is she being like this?
1 Answer
- Anonymous7 years agoFavorite Answer
I can understand this because I've been in a long distance relationship too and it can be very hard, especially when you're not physically there with your loved one. I do a lot of traveling to see my boyfriend and we try not to fight, or argue while we're away from eachother overseas, but that can be hard. You two just need that physical connection and see eachother more. Its been 8 months and shes feeling insecure with herself and being apart from you. Trust goes along way when it comes to being apart. Theres miscommunication happening and negativity can happen anytime during those moments of missing someone and not seeing them. She's having her own doubts and so can you too. Ive been there with my boyfriend for many years. Its all about learning about eachother and coming up with an understanding. She's not a negative person, the distance can make a person feel negative towards things and it can bring a person down. I think she's feeling a bit depressed. Is there away for you to see her? or for her to see you at least? Plan a meeting time to see eachother and she'll look forward to this instead of feeling negative thoughts. For right now, tell her you want to hold her and I bet she would feel so much better if you spent a night just falling asleep on the phone with her and calling her the next morning to say good morning. My boyfriend and I had done that a bunch of times and it made me feel closer. Get yourself a camera if you dont have one either and Skype with her more.
Best wishes.