Am I gay for doing this I'm a 15 year old guy?

When a lot of people hear the word "attraction" they instantly think it means a SEXUAL attraction. But the fact is, we have MANY different attractions that usually fit into one of five categories. They are called RARES.

Relational, Affectional, Romantic, Emotional, and Sexual.

Each attraction has a different quality to it. For example, I am a 23 year old gay man. And I have four different girl friends in my life. My friend Francesca is someone I could spend the rest of my life with. I'm happier whenever she's around. I just really enjoy her company. I would marry her if I could. I have a RELATIONAL attraction to her. My friend, Caitlin, is a gal pal of mine from high school. We love to cuddle in bed and fall asleep together. We also love to hug and cuddle during movies. I have an AFFECTIONAL attraction towards her. My friend Shelly is someone I love to wine and dine. I love buying her nice gifts and surprising her with things for no reason at all. I'd love to take her dancing and enjoy a candlelit dinner. I have a ROMANTIC attraction towards her. And lastly is my friend Christina, who has been my friend for almost 12 years. We tell each other EVERYTHING. We've seen each other at our lowest, and we've gossiped and had deep talks with just about everything that's ever gone on in our lives. I have an EMOTIONAL attraction to her. But the fact is, even though I have attractions to all four of these girls, I am NOT sexually attracted to them.

But... sometimes the lines between attractions overlap each other. Like, one time, when Caitlin and I were cuddling in bed going to sleep, I was spooning her and just had this strange thought of "Hmmm... I wonder..." So I lifted my leg onto her body just because I was a little curious to see where it might go. And in my heart I thought, "She's like- my best friend! And we have the opportunity. What's stopping us?" Well, Caitlin wasn't feeling it at all, and the B*TCH SHOT ME DOWN- SO. FAST. Lol. Now we're still very good friends and have completely forgotten about that one time. But for a brief moment, I DID have that attraction and who knows, maybe if she would have been cool with it, we would have continued or at least see where it went.

Now, even if I had that one time with her- that wouldn't make me "straight" or "bisexual". Because I know in my heart and in my mind I am a gay man. Even if I fell in love with a woman tomorrow, I'd still call myself gay, because that's what I am comfortable calling myself. I feel a sense "right" and pride when I say it. So to get back to your story, if you are wondering after that whole experience if that makes you gay, the answer is- you are a human being that can call yourself whatever you desire to call yourself.

Sexuality is NOT black and white. Everyone falls somewhere on a spectrum. What's important to remember is that sexuality is a PERSON-by-PERSON experience. Not something that can be 100%. The average person only meets 100,000 people in a lifetime. The world has 7,000,000,000 in it. The people we meet in a lifetime don't even make a DENT to how many people are actually IN the world. So whose to say that if I call myself 'gay" that there are absolutely NO women I would find sexually attractive. And whose to say that if you and your friend call yourselves "straight" that there are NO boys you would find sexually attractive... even if it was just one night.

I mean, who knows? Maybe as you get older, you might feel you that you DO have more attractions to boys than you think you do now. But if that were the case- that would be fine! There is nothing wrong with you. Sexuality is a lifetime process. Not something that is concrete. I could go have sex with a woman if I was forced to- but that would not stop me from THINKING of a man while I was doing it. Sex is in the MIND. NOT the body. So even if you were hard when this whole thing happened, there are some differences between "comfort" and "arousal".

Lastly, yes. It is completely safe to swallow. Unless there is blood in a guy's semen- which would only happen if he REALLY needed to see a doctor, it is completely safe to swallow... Hell, I'm gay and *I* don't like the taste of semen. And I must admit, I also laughed because when you wrote about how you were almost mad at each other the day after you guys fooled around- I know a LOT of people (gay AND straight) who have done the same exact thing. LOL. Sometimes people get horny, they hook up, and they regret it the next morning. It's more common than you think.

Just try not to worry about that night too much- just let your freak flag fly. You are human being with HUMAN desires. There is nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about. I wish you the best of luck in the future!

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Here's the hard part: Pretend she never existed, like it was all a dream, don't call her, that will make you the smaller person, be the bigger person since you deserve better, what she did to you on Valentines Day was immature, especially after dating for four years. This person wasted allot of your time and through it out the window. Go out tonight, even it it is only yourself, don't drink and call or feel sorry for yourself, this will only cause you embarrassment! I know your hurting..This will eventually will go away in time. Today is not a good day for you and your emotions are spinning all over the place.

Please, whatever you do, don't answer her calls and don't call her. If she keeps calling, which she pro bally won't, don't return her call for 5 days. Make her sweat and DO Not get back together right away if you discuss this in 5 days. Tell her since she Broke up with you, you have done allot of thinking, and had the taste of "being single again" and you would like more time being "friends" for now, so you are sure you are making the right decision. Remember "She decided she didn't want to be with you" so the door is open for you to get out and see what you have been missing for four years. You honestly need to do this for yourself.

She doesn't know, but what she did was give you the best valentines day present you will ever get! A new start and a new beginning, use it to your advantage. You will look back on this and Thank God this happened now instead of 4 more wasted years of YOUR life. Today does suck, stay Strong and I promise you your life is going to be so much more exciting and you are going to be happy. If you continue to call and call her, she will think of you as needy and won't want you. She is going to rethink what she did to you today and will be hurt, if you act like you could care less. Girls always want the ones they can't have. That is who you are now to her. Let her suffer,realizing what a mistake she made. This will drive her crazy. Right now she is on cloud 9 thinking you will take her back, OH, is she stupid!

Your life isn't ruined, hers is..She lost someone special, and gave you a gift to let to live life and find someone you deserve. You are not getting back at her, your teaching her what an idiot she is and what she lost and what you gained without her. SO when You eventually talk to her, tell her thank you for what she did...

She will be hurt and you will be happy!

Dont label yourself this or that, I guess you guys bonded in a deeper way than many and yes in your situation swallowing is ok and quite safe - given that you are both ummmm "inexperienced" and are unlikely to have been exposed to any of the nasties like Hepatitis herpes etc (which of course you can get through straight sex anyhow.)

The simple fact is you got off with each other, you both found it hot and I guess in there somewhere lurks a few thoughts about trying it again. There is no reason not to, it sure as hell beats solo masturbation, as long as you guys are discreet and keep it low key there is no reason why you cant be "close friends" Over the years I have had several "Straight" **** buddies, they were 99% straight guys who just once in a while wanted something totally different, and I satisfied that need in them, safely and without them getting into situations where they were likely to be revealed as having a an occasional appetite for guys.

There is a line from an old song that seems to fit here

"If it feels good...... do it"

I guess the way forward is for you guys to talk it over (in your boxers lol) and see how you want to deal with this, either put it down to experimentation - or decide that you feel safe and secure enough in your friendship to take the unique opportunity to explore your sexuality a little, its a chance you may never get again - so don't waste it. Dont worry about what others will think - if you guys just carry on as normal outside of this - no one will be any the wiser, it will be a special bond between you guys that will forever mark this friendship as special.

Hi. If you are still on here, it'll be great to hear from you and get an update after your incident a few years ago. Just BTW, I'm gay. Was very naive and only really knew what the difference between gay and straight was at the ripe old age of 25!?

Anyway, you remind me of myself when I was that age and of course many other guys out there. To keep it as short as possible I'll not go into too many details of my precise experience over the years.

I had a friend living across the road from me when I was about your age. He would often come over and play at my place after school. We were playing one day and he said to me that he would like to see my stuff. I didn't hesitate as I didn't know any better at the time anyway. We went behind the garage and we both dropped our shorts. We both looked at each other and chatted about what our pen.. s looked like, short before long we ended up touching and playing with each other. Both loved it and just about played every day! Will update. ..

What you did would be considered by most as having gay sex. Me and my cousin have been having gay sex for years. When it first started, I was 15 and he was 11. He was staying with my family for several months and one night he ****ed my while I was asleep. I woke up while he was inside my anal, but it felt good so I didn't stop him. After that, I swallowed his *** at least 4 or 5 times a week and he ****ed my anal every night before bed. Now I'm 20 and he is 16 and we still have sex with each other every week. We both are straight, but we both love the taste of *** and getting ****ed by each other. I think you were just horny and you got caught up in the moment and had sex. Part of it was because you took the shower together. If it were me in your shows, I would continue doing it for as long as you both enjoy it. Good luck

Love, you sound bisexual hetero-romantic. It's a great and se'xy way to be a man, my husband is like you. It's OK to kiss a boy and be with a boy sexually. Don't worry about it, just enjoy it. It's not good to feel sad or nasty for doing this, this is not wrong, it's not ugly it's jsut two boys boys having healthy fun. personally I love swallowing my husband's semen, it's good for you too, it's protein, haha. You don't have to do it if you don't want to tho, just let him come anywhere else...Warn you to step back when he's about ti come. is there a more mature bi man you can talk to he can help you deal with this in a healthy way.

I did similiar at your age but i am mostly straightgt. he was the only guy ever. he scrwed me and gave several blow jobs. This was the 80s and his mom was a hardcore Christian. A video we made had a flash on it of hin on me so she caught us. She agreed to not tell my parents or any one if she handled the consequences. We were grounded for months from each other and she took us seperately to the parents room for a whppin with a big yard stick. it was soooo embarassing and the stick stung and burned bad. I would suck him now, guess i'm part bi. I'm 42 now!

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