More about friendships...can you help?

Welcome to my world I believe we share something in common. What I have come to relize is this, people call me when they are doing something that I am good at and really never call me if they want to just go out and have fun. I asked myself why this is and here is what I came up with. If I want to do something with a person I will do the calling and ask them to possibly go fishing with me, the reason that they don't call me is I am not anyones best friend. I seem to talk to a lot of people but never am I at someones house or on the phone with them all the time. I find my best friend at home and I do most of my stuff with her, so she is my best friend (wife). So to make a blunt statement people don't call me because I am married and I do things with my wife all the time. Is it possible that these people you are describing are married or have girlfriends? These are the type of people that never call me to do anything. From your question I am reading that you are single? I don't think it is anything that they don't like you, but they have other friends male or female that they choose to spend thier time with.

In general, do you do everything for them, but never ask anything in return? I know, there was that one huge thing where you needed your friends, but I men ordinarily.

It's possible that you had been training your friends to see you as a giver, and not someone to have the two-way giving and taking that is the normal part of a healthy friendship.

Have you ever asked any of these people why it is that you don't get invited to meet up with them?

"value friends too highly" isn't a helpful, or accurate, description. It's not about valuing too highly, it's about being a constant giver -- so you're like a reliable servant, rather than a friend.

Demand a good friend? No, that doesn't sound accurate. You VOLUNTEERED to always be there, etc.

And when you say not one of them was there -- did you reach out to them, and ask for them to "be there"? If not, then were you expecting them to read your mind?

You are a giver...and people like givers. If none of these people could step up and support you in a time of need you need to reevaluate your friends.

You now know if you want a social life with AQUAINTANCES, that is what you got. You need find a new circle of friends.

You surely can find a support group through your church or the community for your parents. The best way to make good friends is VOLUNTEERING for a good cause that helps people or animals. People don't do this kind of work for money or esteem...it is because they have hearts. Those are the kind of friends you should seek out.