How to tell a guy Im in Love with him?

Sherlock if this is about John: get over it.

He's a married man!

People often think that sexuality is just three solid blocks: straight, gay, and bisexual. Modern psychology proves otherwise. In reality a full heterosexual or homosexual is very rare. You, for example, probably lean towards homosexuality strongly and thus you identify that way. Simple proof of this is in the heterosexual pornography industry. If all straight people were 100% straight, they would not be able to become sexually aroused due to the person of the same sex included in the film. And that's not just some people. The porn industry takes up about 40% of the Internet. Also the concept of a bisexual is false; it's just a person leaning more or less equally towards homosexuality and heterosexuality.

My point is he might not be Totally straight. If you talk so much and were so open with each other that you managed to fall in love with him then he obviously feels like he can trust you and might even have some feelings for you (suppressed or otherwise). You should just use your words. This may seem like the type of advise that everyone gives but just talk to him. He might even realize that he's actually gay too (or at least leaning). It's quite common these days for people to realize their gay very late because they suppressed their tendencies due to this very non-supporting society we live in. My point is you never know unless you try.If you want you don't even have to admit your love right away, you can just admit your feeling something towards this guy. For example: you can just tell him that you feel like their might be some feeling involved for him but not enough so that the friendship would be over if he rejected you. You could then (if he's up to it) slowly let him know how strong you're feelings actually were. Or, if you feel you have to be honest about it, just tell him in your own way. No one on this site knows what's going on between you two better that you do, so only you know how to tell him.

There is of course the risk that you will be rejected. This can go in one of two ways:

1. You can remain friends or

2. You can end up parting ways

If you remain friends then you probably want to stop feeling for this guy because otherwise, you'll just end up suffering. Find other people.

If you end up parting ways then find new friends, get hobbies or something. Don't just mope.

If you're having second guesses about telling him at all then you'll still want to stop feeling for this guy because otherwise, you'll just end up suffering. Find other people, get hobbies or something to distract you from your feelings until they go away (yes that can happen though very slowly and difficultly). But in my opinion, you should just tell him because having to suppress your feelings is just not worth it. It can actually be quite unhealthy psychologically speaking.

Simple... Say "I'm in love with you..." And you're done! You've said it. :)