What do the Muslims here think about underage marriages?

I think that it's stupid, your not a child for long so you better live while you are one and save marriage for later. Also you should also have a professional job or if not at least have finished your education before marriage. This is just my opinion and I'm a Muslim.

@sadpanda np, anytime :)

I am no muslim. But i want to mention some things. All 13 and middle to late teens, today, have boyfriends. Most of them (of those having boyfriends), are sexually active. Even when i had been a school, a classmate of mine (14 years old girl), came before us the boys in the lesson of gymnastics (basketball course) and bragged shamelessly of having had sex at summer, with a soldier boy (she thought that was pretty smart, or to make us jealous or something...). Staff sounded to me so gross, i wanted to puke, to be honest, and the memory of it still does.

Some people DO have a point, about marriage at such ages. Would you prefer your sisters, daughters and cousins, making out with random strangers, and become demoralized as sit? Plus, historically speaking, such marriages have been going on for countless eons, even from antiquity, and it is worth noting, that divorces in previous, bygone eras, were VERY, pretty scarce... Still, forcing a girl that age to marry stinking or old men, is unacceptable and barbaric. Age gap shouldn't be greater past a certain limit. Especially, past a certain limit that makes someone feel comfortable or at ease.

Modern society and lifestyle rushes to bash the one of others, without caring to first see the good points of the arbitrarily proclaimmed opposite side, or the wrong points of its own malpractices, wrong teachings, bad examples, twisted morals and subtle propaganda bombing. The very same things that our ever so civilized west accuses the east of stubbornly using ever, right...? This is what a hypocrite is. Accusing others of whatever it is that they themselves do.

Salam I have the same opinion with your Muslim friends that now underage marriages must be avoided although there is no age limit for Muslims in marriage because the bride and bridegroom must be matured physically and spiritually It is better for a woman to get married at least 18 year old and for a a man at his 25 year old.so he will be independent financially too.

I think it depends on the girl and boy.

I got married at 14 nearly 15 and I struggled.

Maybe cos I was slow growing. I still am. (Mentally) :p I'm crazy and childish

I was flat chested when I married and excessively shy

And many people said I looked 10 years old.

But if the girl is very Mature then why not?

Better than dating before marriage.

"At least with boyfriends it's a short term thing"

There is evidence of sti's/d's with many partners.

Allah knows everything and humans only find all this out later.

When rules are put in place it's to protect us. Being honourable and keeping yourself with the boy you love till old age is not disgusting.

It's more disgusting to date short term

If a girl's physical body starts menstruating as a sign of being able to carry a child in her womb. Then she is not a child anymore, by Islamic law or by Medical standards of today. She is considered a young woman able to bear children and have sex.

So, I suggest those who are against it, keep it at that.

And don't interfere with other people's business.

Many Non Muslim Grandparents were married at 15 yrs old.

No one said anything to them at the time.

But just because it's not ideal in your eyes today, doesn't mean we change.

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Islamically -- A woman is free to marry if:

1) She is physically able by sign of menstruation.

2) She consents to be married to a chosen man she agrees to

The above 2 are conditions.

None can change Allah's laws.

And ----- do not forget how many young girls 11/12/13 yr olds have "Boyfriends" -- You would rather they get used and abused than live in an honourable marriage.

I'm against it. I wouldn't let my daughters or sons get married at a very young age. I would let them get married at around 22-25 for girls and 25-28 for boys.

It is part of culture.. Islam does not restrict marriage of a woman (or girl) who has reached puberty. But Islam does not force to get her married either.

Isn't unbelievable that people believe that if a young girl starts her menses that her physical body is able to bear a child? It is utter rot to believe this and many a young girl dies in childbirth as proof.