Why Do Some Gay People Like To Flaunt Their Sexuality?

"Why Do Some People Like To Flaunt Their Sexuality?"

-Gee, I don't know. Why does Patty from accounting tell me about the stupid things her husband does and why does she always show me pictures of her crotch fruit (children)? I really don't want her flaunting her heterosexuality all f*cking day, it's annoying.

Why do I always see some young straight couple trying to see who can eat the others face off the fastest when I'm walking home? They need to stop forcing their sexuality on us!

Why do I have to listen to John talk about the girls he fancies all the f*cking time? I ask him to stop, yet, he keeps forcing his sexuality on me!

What about straight people? Bridal shops, people holding hands or kissing out in the open, advertising and movies aimed squarely at heterosexuals shown openly on free access TV. Yet nobody complains about that.

A major difference between gay people and straight people:

'Gayness' is very frequently mentioned to describe someone who's gay even when sexuality was not the topic of conversation. This rarely happens with straight people.

Example:

-Statement 1: "My friend Jake just got promoted at his job."

-Statement 2: "My friend Bill, you know the one who's gay, yeah he just moved to Cincinnati."

-Statement 3: "My friend Alex just got back from the gay rights rally. He's straight, but he just went to support LGBT."

As you can see, in Statement 1 (whether people want to admit this or not), most people would assume Jake to be straight simply as the default. In Statement 2, Bill's sexuality was simply given outright even though the information is not relevant to the conversation. In Statement 3, the only reason Alex's sexuality as straight was mentioned was because the topic of LBGT was brought up.

You may be asking what my point is. Well, I'll give you my personal point of view as a lesbian. Ever since I came out, I have felt very much sexualized by the vast majority of people who know I'm gay. It's a very peculiar experience for people to think of me as their 'lesbian' friend. But even though I'M not constantly thinking about the fact that I'm a lesbian, I'm exposed to everyone else's odd preoccupation with it. Whenever I see someone 'come out' on tv for instance, I'm reminded that 'gayness' is still something that people feel ashamed of, it's still something that many people are disturbed by, it's something that many people don't think of until they're told, and it's something that many people think OUGHT to be HIDDEN.

Put all those things together, and you've got the perfect recipe for people to wear their gayness on their sleeve. One obvious benefit is that it let's people be aware that I'm gay. It can get annoying and frustrating when people assume I'm straight and want to set me up with a guy. Also, when I express genuine acceptance and happiness about my own sexuality, it lets others know that I OPPOSE the idea that my love of women is inappropriate.

If you think of this as 'flaunting', just remember the unique position that gay people are in. If gay people weren't bashed by society, there would be no reason for gay people 'speak out' in order to counteract the stigma.

I also must mention that straight people DO flaunt their sexuality. But when they do it, they don't say 'I'm straight to the bone'. They simply express their love or lust of the opposite sex without needing to mention their 'straightness'. People are SO desensitized by how much heterosexuality they see around them it's almost ridiculous. If you don't believe me, next time you're watching tv, or listening to the radio, or looking at the magazine rack at the grocery store, or looking at a billboard, or walking in the mall, or going out to a restaurant, or just basically doing ANYTHING, really try to notice the amount of references there are to man/woman relationships or man/woman attraction.

Look at what made the NYDailyNews:

http://www.nydailynews.com/entertainment/gossip/ki...

On the contrary, look at what's on CNN

http://www.cnn.com/2014/02/15/showbiz/page-comes-o...

I know it may LOOK like gay people 'flaunt it' more. I can assure you, it is an illusion. Gay people are simply forced to talk about their gayness more if they want people to learn that there's nothing wrong with being gay.

the same reason religious people and atheists like to flaunt their point of views.

Because there are many homophobes in the world.

Well some people aren't actually gay and just want to be cool and different. That's why. My opinion.

homosexuals are naturally arrogant. It's a genetic fact.

Because if you say something they can sue you and they want that

Straight people do it too, but we are used to it.

They have a "need" to be aknowledged ! I don't "bash" them, I just don't care to associate with them !