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Refusing handshake...is this appropiate?

I have a job interview coming up soon, and due to religious beliefs, I do not shake hands with men. Please note that this is in no way meant as an act of disrespect, and this does not mean I cannot work with men in a business setting.

I am meeting with a team of workers and I'm not sure if there will be men there (although the HR recruiter is a male and I will meet him), but I want to avoid any awkward situations and I don't want to offend anyone. Previously, I just place my right hand on my chest, nod my head, and say (with a smile) something along the lines of "Sorry, but I can't shake hands due to religious reasons."

I received an email from the HR to confirm my interview time/location. I was thinking of sending him an email notifying him of this, just something simple like "I am looking forward to meeting all of you. I just wanted to let you know ahead of time that, due to religious reasons, I do not shake hands with men. I mean no disrespect at all and hope that you understand." Would this be a good idea or a wrong move? I don't want it to seem like a big deal, but I don't want to offend anyone. Should I just go with the flow and deal with things as they come?

Any advice is appreciated.

Please don't tell me to just shake hands, because I prefer to be honest about my beliefs.

Thank You.

Update:

MrC- I'm Muslim and thank you for your reply.

Pinecone- Thanks, I didn't know that :)

Andrew- I understand, but my beliefs are important to me. Thanks though!

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  • CNL
    Lv 5
    7 years ago

    I'm going to be honest with you, and you might not like it. First. let me say that I completely understand why you do not shake hands (I am assuming you are a woman). Secondly, depending on the country you are in, many people may not understand why you don't shake hands. I honestly didn't know about this until my first class on World Religions when we had an option to go to a Mosque (I'm a woman) and was warned not to attempt to shake men's hands. If you are in America, depending of each person's differ life, they may or may not know about this. If I had no idea about this and someone refused to shake my hand after a job interview I wouldn't understand, and in my ignorance I would draw some pretty strange conclusions.

    I would HIGHLY recommend that you send the email. I would also explain it is for a religious reason, so they don't assume you are a germ-a-phobe. I would rather been known for my dedication to religion than people wondering how I am going to operate in an office with a phobia of germs. I would also ask the HR manager to explain this to the team that will be interviewing you before hand if they have time because you want to make sure you don't offend anyone.

    Then, at the interview if someone forgets or if they were not told, simply tell them that you are Muslim and for religious reasons you do not shake men's hands. I would keep my hands to my side or clasp them together...I wouldn't put my hand on my chest, for a few reasons. Make sure you say you are Muslim (even though it is none of their business) because if you don't they may simply think you are in a cult (some people really have no idea about religious other than their own and even then....) I wouldn't put my hand on my chest because this just seems a little personal on a job interview...but then again if it makes you comfortable...Just personally, I wouldn't do that on an interview I'd simply clasp my hands together but really, I've never had to do this, so whatever way works best for you. Good luck!

  • ?
    Lv 6
    7 years ago

    I completely respect your choice not to shake hands. I think sending the e mail is a good idea just to inform the HR person in advance. The usual gesture you use seems appropriate. No explanation is necessary, when you place your hand on your chest and smile, the other person will understand that you don't shake hands and it's not because of them. They may think you are just one of the many people who are careful about germs, but that's okay. Howie Mandel is a very famous American celebrity, and he refuses to shake hands, and everyone knows it and respects it. No big deal.

  • 7 years ago

    well you're not wrong for being true to your religion but just know that you probably would be better off just shaking the man's hand. Most people have to compromise some of their religious beliefs in order to make a living.Like dreads for Rastafarian beliefs things of that nature

  • 7 years ago

    What religion are you?

    Well let them know its against your religious beliefs. If they're not ego maniac *******, they shouldn't be too offended by the rejection.

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  • ?
    Lv 6
    7 years ago

    You could wear gloves, technically you're not touching the person then.

  • Anonymous
    7 years ago

    Thats the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard. Just shake the dam hand and move on.

  • ₮y
    Lv 7
    7 years ago

    You could always bow down to him.

  • ?
    Lv 6
    7 years ago

    would a bow be appropriate?

  • Anonymous
    7 years ago

    No, not appropriate.

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