Should I have tried for it? (Strip club)?

I want to start off by saying with females, I usually I don't see the green light. Usually I see something that's not there or vice versa.

Recently to celebrate my bday I went to a strip club for the first time and I decided to go by myself. I didn't tell anyone there it was my bday cause I'm not the type of person that wants "special attention" in front of the entire club. As I was watching, a stripper comes asks if I was ready for a dance and if we could go to the VIP room and we did. She could tell it was my first time.

Now I've always heard about the "no touch policy" and I wanted to respect that. During the private dance the type of touching on her part went farther than I expected. All of this was still on top of the clothes stuff, she was topless though. For example: there were times she had a firm grip on my "male member", she would take my hands and put them on her boobs and a$$, we would be grinding hard I thought and during she'd play with herself a little. She gave me little pecks on my cheek. With that I did give signs I wanted to kiss her, we didn't but it's not like I got denied but she moved on with the dance. She did do the cheek pecks more than once during the dance though.

I felt the dance was good. After 20-30 mins she asks if I knew how many songs we were in and telling me how she didn't want me to go over whatever my budget was. We finished the dance shortly after that. The next day I started wondering if she asked me that cause she thought I seemed weird and wanted to end the dance. I also wondered if I could've have gone further with her but just misunderstood the signs cause I wanted to be respectful. If things would've moved to the next level, I wouldn't have been aggressive or forceful about it at all. That's definitely not my style.

Now I'm not trying to sound like the "guy that falls for the stripper", I'm just curious if this is a normal VIP room experience or did I "miss the green light"