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Am I a Lesbian? I don't know....I'm so confused?

Can someone please help me. I am 17 years old and I am so confused. I have never been this puzzled about what I'm doing. I have no idea who the hell I am anymore. I like guys. I find guys attractive, but when I imagine being in a relationship with one I want to barf. I have alot of guy friends and I really like them as just friends. I really don't want to have a relationship with one of them. Sometimes I can mistake friendships with guys as being a little more than that and then I do want a relationship with them but it never really works out. We end up being so different that I wonder what the hell was I doing with him? Now I find girls attractive too. I want relationships with girls. I have girlfriends but not 'girlfriends' we are just buddies. I want a deeper relationship with girls. I can connect with girls much easier than I can for guys. It just seems like we have so much more in common. We can really make each other happy, and the sex would be so much more interesting....the thing is I like girls my age, but I also like girls alot older than me. I like women with experience, and they are attractive but mature. Is this a phase, I have always felt this way about older women. Am I gay, bi, or what? Please help me. I don't want to be gay because my family won't except me. I can't stand feeling these feelings but I do. I have them every day. I really don't know what to do, this is very bad isn't it?

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  • 7 years ago
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    Your still young and Also i am the same age as you and have felt the same way about other girls my age and older. A lot of girls are attracted to other girls and think their pretty. But if you feel sexually or emotionally attracted to girls then you might be. Just give it a little time. If you find yourself more attracted to girls than guys than its a possibilty. Experience with both and see what you like.

  • 7 years ago

    Hi 17...I hope you're doing fine and not too very much upset by your thoughts and feelings. I can't speak for everyone and maybe I shouldn't give advice about this, but I went through pretty much the same thing when I was 14, not 17. I'm 19 now and seem to have made it through the 'who am i' and ‘wthf’ crisis. Lucky or unlucky for me I met guys (2) and a girl at 14 who more or less convinced me to open up and let go and ‘don’t worry about it’ and ‘it’ll be fun.’ The thing that I want to stress is that what you’re going through is not bad. I have friends from college who went through exactly what you’re going through and what I went through, only at different ages. I’m not sure but I believe your sick feelings for a relationship with boys right now will pass. I could be wrong but I think you simply haven’t met the right boy…someone who will look at you in a way that will surprise you and intrigue you and make you want to see more of him. If that doesn’t happen, if you don’t happen to stumble upon that boy, then I’m guessing that by the time you’re 20 you’ll have experienced sex with girls and will probably believe you’re lesbian if those experiences with girls have been fun and fulfilling. It’s just a guess. Again, I’m no expert.

    Now for the good part: it’s just sex. It’s a big part of life but still it’s only sex. It’s not the end of the world. It’s not life or death. It’s not even necessary if you don’t feel comfortable doing it. I’m guessing you want to try something to get real answers to end the uncertainty. If you do try it, please keep in mind it’s just sex and nothing more, okay? It’s going on all over the world and no one has died from it (if they made sure the boy wore protection and the girl was clean and healthy…always keep that in mind).

    I won’t say here what my verdict was about me, but I’m happy with myself and have no reason to change. I think the same will be true of you if you’re level headed and not the ‘stupid blonde’ next door.

    You’ll hear that all guys want is one thing. That’s true for most, but then you might find that guy who wants that and a lot more from you…maybe even marriage or at least a wonderful loving relationship that goes places and doesn’t always end up at his place or in the back seat of a car.

    You sound a lot like my 15yo sister who, after her first sleepover, thought all girls wanted was some sort of sex or to talk endlessly about sex. Despite that, my sister is doing just fine and seems to have a good grip on her relationships.

    I hope this helps. Good luck to you. Sometimes finding Mr Right or Ms Right needs a little luck. Keep your eyes and ears open. Ask questions and expect reasonable, logical answers from everyone you go out with.

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    4 years ago

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  • Anonymous
    7 years ago

    It sound like you're bi.

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  • Anonymous
    7 years ago

    sounds like you want to lick pussy.. go for it.

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