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I love my boyfriend but I think I'm in love with another guy?

I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years, he's wonderful and we never got in any fights. I'm just really upset with myself because I started talking to this guy from back home (im in college) and I didn't think I would have strong feelings for him. We got really close and I even make sure I look super nice around him and I get extremely nervous if i'm about to see him. I feel terrible and I hate hurting people, it will just make me feel horrible if I do break up with my boyfriend because he has always been so nice to me :/

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  • 7 years ago

    Okay, first things first. Be an adult and make a freaking decision, then act as necessary. Both scenarios are below.

    Are you going to stay with your boyfriend?

    Than stop being so hung up on this guy. Stop making yourself gorgeous for him, and outside of normal friend activities, don't be alone with him. Having opposite gender friends is not a bad thing at all. But if you feel this starting up and you want to stay with your BF, it is YOUR responsibility to nip this in the bud. Cut down on your time with this new man and spend more time with your boyfriend. You better be single before you do anything with the new guy, because your boyfriend deserves that courtesy.

    Are you going to leave boyfriend behind?

    Than do it as soon as you can and be honest about it. Do it in person and think of your reasons beforehand. Don't even look at the new guy until you have had your break-up. Don't go "On a break" or that sh*t: You either leave him or keep him. You don't get both. He's been nothing but faithful and honest for two years, so he deserves nothing less than an honest break up IN PERSON. Wish him well and go off with the new guy.

    But before you choose......REALLY think about this.

    You know your boyfriend. You have dated for 2 years. You know what life is like with him and what it will continue to be. Think about the greatest moments and the worst, and how he has treated you. Do you want to toss that aside and spin the roulette wheel with Guy #2? Because Guy#2 could be better or so much worse. He's the unknown and you will go in blind.

    If your current relationship, good and bad alike, is making you happy as a person, I see no reason to leave it. But if it isn't, than say your goodbyes and move on so both of you can get what you deserve.

    Don't make this decision when angry or blissfully happy. Set aside an hour of free time to just think and weight the options.

    Good luck.

  • Mircat
    Lv 7
    7 years ago

    No you don't love your boyfriend or you would be emotionally cheating with another guy and trying to flirt with him. When you are in love, you don't see other people, you are focused on the love of your life and trying to look super nice around him.

    Break up with him and let him go find someone who thinks he's the best thing since peanut butter because you don't.

  • Anonymous
    7 years ago

    If you still love your bf maybe try to distance your self from your friend and not see him as much ... i dont mean ignore him completely but just keep it professional.. i mean the guy did give you 2 years of hapiness and it seems like they were rly happy years considering you never fought with him for two years.. maybe thats the problem and your just bored try spending more time with your bf and spicing things up.. if you dont have feelings for your bf then maybe try telling him how you feel and see if he steps his game up and c were it goes.. maybe you like the attention your friend gives you? idk.. just dont mess around with your friend while having a bf... also another thing to consider is how your friend feels about you.. he may say he feels one way but he may just be trying to get in ur pants and then leave u after wards.. you r throwing away 2 years of a relationship with some one so just make sure its worth it if you do :)... gl to ya

    Source(s): experience
  • 7 years ago

    It's not love if you like another guy. If you really care about your boyfriend then break up with him so he can find someone who really does love him and you can start seeing the other guy. I get what you're going through so trust me, let your bf go. The longer you wait the harder the break-up.

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  • Anonymous
    7 years ago

    well always remember that it will hurt your boyfriend even more if you cheat behind his back. it will be the better option if you just broke up. Lets face it when you like the other guy that much and if the guy likes you then obviously your gonna end up more than friends and it is going to hurt your boyfriend more.

  • 7 years ago

    There's something wrong with you. Your boyfriend doesn't deserve you.

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