My 52 year old partner won't have sex with me, he says that he's messed up from last relationship, bear in mind his ex wife cheated on him?

Hi Bianca, I reckon you are a self made woman with strong values and belief else you would have conveniently blamed age difference for this and moved on in your life. You have invested all your love in the relationship. Honestly I envy you partner for having such supporting woman in his life. My advice is just have confidence in your relationship and keep investing in it. Yes sex is normal and is as much necessary for him as for you. It will come naturally because life is a two way street and you will soon have him reciprocating and sharing a complete wonderful relationship with you.

Maybe he has medical problems that are making it difficult for him to engage in sex. Have you thought about that? A man his age could be struggling with erectile dysfunction or low testosterone. He may also be on medication that is inhibiting his ability to have sex. It's also possible that this is psychological. His ex could have really done a number on him to the point where he associates that type of intimacy with a lot of heartache. It would be no different than a woman who was sexually abused. Sex can become a traumatic thing for them. Try to find out what's going on. Be supportive - not demanding.

Realistically I would say keep him as a best friend and try and get someone younger :) I know you love him but he's quite old for someone of your age to go for, being almost 20 years older then you :( and he is especially too old for someone of your age to be considering having sex with! If you really want to be with him and he cannot give you what you want from your relationship then ask him to move on from her and persuade him to trust in you :) prove to him that you are worth it!

His penis is likely tiny or doesnt work. my ex has that problem. He blamed his prior ex. Sex is necessary for intimacy. If he wont see a dr move on now.

Does he watch porn? Did you ever have sex? I would agree that it might be medical and he is ashamed so he doesn't want you to know.

I am being supportive and I'm even going to counselling with him. He's my best friend. Thanks for your advice.