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Mental health problems/relationships?
A few qustions and I would prefer to hear from those who have experienced psychotic disorders and/or severe depression...
My hope is to find out people's actual experience.
Questions:
Is it in some ways unfair to pursue relationships, knowing that your problems can potentially be very difficult on the other person?
Do you think you should tell someone up front about your problems?
Is having highly emotional and intimate relationships more helpful or hurtful to your condition?
Do you have a hard time not building up resentment of people, because they cannot understand your difficulties? Do you feel like people inherently dismiss mental illness as simply more common personal troubles?
Do you feel like it's difficult to be fully invigorated, and emotionally dynamic without people worrying about any instability? Do you do this to yourself?
Any thoughts/advice on making/managing relationships with mental illness would be very much appreicated... more of a discussion forum.
2 Answers
- 7 years agoFavorite Answer
I haven't had any mental health problems but I can offer some perspective of what I would want if someone I was dating/interested in had them.
I wouldn't expect them to tell me about them immediately because it shouldn't define them and I think it would scare me off a bit before I got to know them well enough. You've gotta work out whether they're worth any additional difficulty that a mental health condition could cause - telling them before they find out all about how great you are makes that hard.
As soon as some level of commitment forms or you feel you're fairly close I would expect to be told though and I would like to be told as up front and bluntly as possible. I wouldn't want euphemisms or for it to be played down but I'd also like some assurances (if they can be given) that its not that big a deal... Then I could make my own mind up.
If I was told all about their mental health and I had got to know them well enough then I don't think there's any reason whatsoever for the other person to feel guilty about making moves or anything - of course they should be allowed an entirely normal dating situation if they can handle it.
In terms of understanding what they're going through - whilst I haven't had any mental health problems myself, my best friend has some problems and I've been through every step with him so I do actually have a fairly good understanding of his difficulties (of course not even comparable to living with it but as close as you can get from the outside).
