What can be a problem if the guy you're together with is 20 years older?

She's a gold digger

It is hard to tell. Stranger things have happened and some people have a huge age difference and are happily married. . .But those are only the people who have lots of money. . .

Most people call this a phase and it may feel good for now but when she is older and wants kids, does she really want the father of her children to be 50 years old when the first is born. . .assuming she only has kids by time she is 30 years old which is when most women feel their biological clocks ticking. . . Now if she gets pregnant before then. . .well. . .hopefully he has lots of money. . .

20 years is too many years in age to date. If she thinks this will be a great relationship, she's delusional. Not that she can't have fun, but when she realizes they have very little in common, she'll dump him. Things like music, movies etc are very different and she'll see there's very little he can offer to make her happy because she'll be embarrassed when he tries desperately to act interested. You're right to be concerned about your friend, but you'll be laughing together about him soon enough. Hope that helps? Good luck

I think you need to stop worrying about her

how is it any different than dating someone her own age

besides the obvious ones of more mature stable life experience

If he treats her well then he is probably already better than 100% of the guys her age

its normal its none of your business and if they truly care for each other what others think does not even register

he could die tomorrow she could die tomorrow we dont know the future so we do what feels right for us NOW

there is a lot

1. they are going to ge judged looked at wrong etc (hope they have tuff skin)

2. he already had his fun so he might not want to go out as much as she will want to someday

3. most people are going to think thats her father making him feel bad and shes going to be embarresed

4. Families might want to do anything with you... him for dating someone so young and her for dating someone her fathers age

Good Luck

Lots of prblems, he will be mentally older and less fun around. Even if you love somone somttimes there are boundries.

I def. agree with Joseph. He's already not gonna have fun and be too mature

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If there both happy. & having fun. Why not leave it to them. Its none of your business.