guy that are disrespectful to women is it because of the relationship they had with their mother?

Oh yes - that's how it works. But you'll find that these people will mostly LOUDLY deny that they had any problem with their mothers. The denial that they carry around tends to accentuate the problems that they have.

When these people end up at a psychologist's office, it can sometimes take years to break through the web of denial. It's very strong.

The problem with child abuse is that the abuse (trouble with mother) falls into the unconscious. Time stops for that part of the person's experience. So it doesn't matter if he's 56 years old - that part of him is still 4 or 5 years old. Thus these abuses last throughout life unless the person can deal with them and understand them.

Anyay don't expect him to be able to discuss it rationally!

I absolutely DO believe the connection between men who mistreat women and the homes in which they were reared, IS the very difference we speak of. A mother who has been verbally abusive to her son; the father who verbally if not physically abuses his wife. Children WATCH - HEAR these atrocities, many? Day in and day out. You cannot tell me, that this doesn't condition them in a very real sense, as to the KIND of adult they will become and further? Just HOW they will treat the women who cross their path...

A man of 56 is set in his way's and obviously, has not been "dressed down"' enough OR taken "to task" in his behavior(S) It's probably too late but then again? We humans CAN change and ARE resilient...So whose to say?

What I do know is that women who comply, sustain this type of abuse are ENABLING these types of men to simply remain the same, become worse. They are NOT doing them ANY favors by "dancing around it" like it doesn't exist. I've had to do this with a male in my own family twice in my lifetime and glad I did. Mistreatment is NOT okay with me in this regard NOR acceptable...Husband, father, son, friend, boss? I THINK NOT. Each of us, man OR woman, needs to let such people know, whether in this case a man, that their words and behavior is UNACCEPTABLE and will NOT be tolerated - then? Put their "money where their mouth is" and ACT on their chastisement to the person, if need be...by distance and no communication.

Grace

it's either their relationship with their mothers or the way their fathers raised them & showed them how to treat women.

he's not going to discuss it rationally because he doesn't think he has a problem.

best to just drop the subject. at his age, he's unlikely to make the effort to change.

YES! How a man was raised has a huge impact on their relationship with women and people period. After getting married a lot of ways my husband had I didn't get. but after being married and learning more about the depths of his history that's when I was able to understand. I could say the simplest things and he would go from 1 to 100 in seconds but to him it was a flashback of what his mom did. it took me a while to understand that. but that goes for women as well your father plays a major role in you choosing a guy. if he was in your life, if he was abusive, if he was controlling as kids if that's all you see then once you come of age you either become that or become attracted to someone just like that.

Some yes, others no. You will not get a rational answer out of a man with no respect to women as to why he acts that way.

Alot of time, yes. Actually, a lot of serial rapists or violent serial killers who target woman, had very very messed up relationships with their mother, often their mother was extremely abusive. They internalize this hatred of their mother and direct it at any woman who reminds him of her. Now, I know you're not talking about hatred to that extent, but I believe the same thing applies. If a man has nothing but bad role models for women in his life, it makes sense he'd lose all respect for women in general psychologically speaking.

I believe so. Then there are ones that came from broken homes and mom did all she could.. kid is frustrated with dad not being there so it follows into adulthood... sad...., others may have not been trained right.