Talk about solutions?

Define the problem. Break it down, into points. Then ask yourself what do you want to achieve from this exercise. Everything resolved, or are you willing to just be happy, with having aired the issues?

Once the issues are out in the open, you discuss, in the hope of learning from each other, and hopefully, to get some kind of resolution. Or at least some progress, then, from where you first started.

The hardest part, taking the initiative, to air the problem. Then hopefully, from then on, you start to get some answers. What's the worst that happen? Nothing ventured, nothing advanced.

Why people generally hate each other is because, they don't know each other. Then it becomes ''them and us''. Before sitting in judgement, over someone, you have to be able 'to walk in their shoes, as if you were them'. Not easy, if you don't engage in dialogue.

The comic Frank Skinner, went to college met people normally he would have disliked, and his views changed. He saw 'them', as people, unlike before.

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/culture/comedy/10443415...

People are so afraid to say anything,” he continues, suggesting that a feeling “you’re not allowed ‘not’ to like stuff” is even hurting Room 101, the BBC comedy series he hosts. “People feel they can’t hate anything anymore,” he avers, his laidback Midlands drawl ensuring the remark sounds bemused and detached not bitter and aggrieved.

He cites the outcry over Anne Robinson’s proposal that the Welsh be placed in Room 101 as an example of this climate of sensitivity, along with the recent furore over England manager Roy Hodgson’s allusion to a “feed the monkey” astronaut joke when referring to mixed-race winger Andros Townsend during a half-time team talk. “People say that was a racist remark when clearly that was not his intention,” he says. “I think what has been achieved by political correctness is a bit like Saint Paul’s line, “The letter killeth but the spirit giveth light”. Getting people to think about the way they view women or homosexuals or black people or whatever is obviously extremely valuable. The problem lies in breaking it down to the letter.”

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/culture/tvandradio/9773...

'Frank Skinner: 'I’d like to go through a dark night of the soul’

Ahead of hosting a new series of Room 101, Frank Skinner says meditation and confession help him to slay his demons.

Skinner meditates, too. “I absolutely believe that it’s a brilliant thing for living your life. It doesn’t have to be about joss sticks.” He’d like to live in solitude, like a monk. “I’ve heard that if you completely cut off contact for three weeks, the first two weeks will be nightmarish but in the third you will find clarity. I like the idea of going through the dark night of the soul and then ending up the other side of it.”