My Aunty won’t contact her Grand-daughter but she said she would. Why?

I'm afraid I think your aunt is being selfish and immature. There is no excuse for losing touch with a grandchild who lost her mother. It has been 14 years since the death. After the initial shock of her daughter's death, your aunt should have contacted her granddaughter and made sure she had everything she needed, instead of focusing only on herself.

Now it sounds like your aunt has promised to finally come through. But she is continuing to focus on herself and is planning to bail. It is incredibly cruel to build up this grandchild's expectations after neglecting and abandoning her, only to do it all over again.

Patricia is right. There is nothing you can do except offer the granddaughter your condolences for not having better luck when the universe/God was distributing grandparents.

If you feel comfortable about doing so, I would remind your aunt that she has an obligation to her family. For example, "I understand how hurt your are, but this girl lost her mother and you weren't there for her. You haven't been there for thirteen years. Now you have built up her expectations and you're planning on ditching her again. Do you think that is right? Can't you bring yourself to rethink this?"

You could also offer to do all the computer stuff while your aunt is present. That way, she will not have to worry about the computer.

Its between your aunt and her grand daughter, just tell the grand daughter that her grandmother will contact her when she is ready and leave it at that,don't put yourself in the middle of it all. At the end of the day it is up to your aunt if she contacts her or not, not you.

I think the granddaughter should be making contact with your Aunt she is the one that

sees a door open and since your aunt is having a difficult time the granddaughter needs to do this. Why

wouldn't the granddaughter make the next move? Its obvious your aunt wants to make contact she is

older and its harder for her. The granddaughter should move forward with this one.

Antst is wrong the aunt is not being selfish or immature she is scared to death and the younger one needs to find out why. Wouldn't you?

That's so sad. Tell her grand daughter the truth, maybe she can contact her first. There's not much else you can do.