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I don’t know if I’m in love with my friend.?
We’ve known each other for close to ten years now and she was my first love. But I knew that nothing could ever come from it so I stopped trying to be her boyfriend and tried to be the best friend that I could. After that I still cared for her intensely but not romantically. A sort of love a brother would have for his sister. And that’s precisely what she’s like to me But now I don’t know. I just feel for her. I just want to hold her close and convey everything in that embrace. But here are two problems that I don’t.
1. I’m depressed. I’ve been battling it for months now and I know that I would have given in a long time ago if it wasn’t for her. She was the one that made me realise that is isn’t normal for people to think this way and to get help. She’s my rock in all this and without her I don’t think I would realise how seriously I was. She is always there. Every doctor appointment she’s there. She even sometimes waits outside the counsellors office waiting for me when I finish. I know I owe her my life. And I don’t know if this is the reason why I’m feeling more intensely about her. I don’t know if it’s because of her support that I feel dependant on her and that’s why I feel more for her. That I feel indebted to her because of how she has taken care of me and if that is making me feel closer to her.
I’m still struggling with issues from a relationship that wasn’t healthy for me. It was emotionally abusive and wasn’t mentally good for me. I’ve suffered a lot of anxiety because of it and it helped lead me to the state that I’m in. And I’m scared she might be some kind of rebound. I hope she’s not because she deserve so much more than that.
I don’t know if I am in love with her, or if I am that I am because of the right reasons.
Thank you.
I’m still struggling with issues from a relationship that wasn’t healthy for me. It was emotionally abusive and wasn’t mentally good for me. I’ve suffered a lot of anxiety because of it and it helped lead me to the state that I’m in. And I’m scared she might be some kind of rebound. I hope she’s not because she deserve so much more than that.
I don’t know if I am in love with her, or if I am that I am because of the right reasons.
Thank you.
1 Answer
- Anonymous7 years ago
Everyone says that someone who is battling depression shouldn't be in a relationship, because they aren't stable and you need to learn to love yourself before you can learn anyone else... well I say screw that. My boyfriend had a absolutely horrible life and has been battling his depression for a long long while and he's the most amazing boyfriend I've ever had. When you go through depression and someone is there with you, especially since you had feelings for them, it's extremely easy to develop feeling for them again. You seem very mature about this issue you're sadly having to deal with, you are looking at it from all directions which is good, if it was me, I would waot a few more months and try to overcome your depression a little more, that way you can make sure she's not a rebound because you're right, she doesn't deserve that.I know everyday is a battle, and it might take a while to get over this, but since she's being so nice about this and understanding she obviously cares♡