Nicest way to tell a girl no?

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I've been really good friends with this girl for a long time. She's really sweet, cute, and has always appreciated me for who I am. However, a few days ago she told me she liked me. I've never really been told that before, so I wasn't quite sure what to say, but now I've definitely decided that I simply don't want to be in a relationship. We're both 15, and though I'd say we're both quite mature for our age, but I can't see myself having a girlfriend. I suppose I'm just not ready for a commitment like that and the drama that comes with it. I'm a really relaxed and easygoing guy, so I don't want a huge change in my life right now, especially since we're still young.

So, what do you think would be the best way to tell her I'm simply not interested in being in a relationship right now without hurting her feelings too much? I still want to be good friends because we get along very well, so I want the least insulting way possible.

Thanks,

TJ

So, what do you think would be the best way to tell her I'm simply not interested in being in a relationship right now without hurting her feelings too much? I still want to be good friends because we get along very well, so I want the least insulting way possible.

Thanks,
TJ

Jeffrey · Accepted Answer

It is possible she was expressing a deep feeling for you but may not necessarily want to be in a relationship herself.  But, it seems like a good idea to find out what she meant.  Something like:

"Thank you for opening up and telling me you like me.  It really means a lot to me.  However, and this is really hard, but I may have mis-interpreted what you meant.  If you meant you want to be boyfriend-girlfriend, I'm just not ready for that right now with anyone. I really like hanging out with you - it makes me happy, and I want to keep hanging out together."

One important part of being good friends with someone is being candid and honest.  Not hinting around or playing head games.  Being candid is hard to do at any age, and can be especially hard for a girl because it makes her feel vulnerable.  But it's the best thing to do.

But whatever you do, however the conversation goes, keep it to yourself.  Forever.  Candor also requires trust.  She has to be able to trust you in order to open up to you.

Anonymous · Answer

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Anonymous · Answer

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