Do all healthy couples have a right to the truth?

unless you told this guy you wouldn't tell, or he asked you to keep a secret and you agreed, there was no mutual understanding between parties, and therefore, you were not TECHNICALLY in the wrong. now if you were a therapist, you would be breaking your agreement, but being "just some guy" holds you to no standards.

i think you did the right thing though, because, from your description, this guy has some issues (many guys do these days), and she needs to know this before things escalate. who knows: she might have married the guy without ever knowing what he was really like!

to answer your initial question, i believe that people NOT being honest with each other is a big part of the reason that 50% of ALL marriages end in divorce (not to mention how many end with one of them dead). people, for some reason, want to "conceal their hand"; to not let the other party know everything about them. while i agree that certain things about yourself should be revealed with some level of tact, important details, such as your philosophies, your interests, your hopes, concerns and worries, are NOT something that should be concealed. if he had ANY respect for her, he would not have cheated.

as a friend, you told your friend the situation.

as you can't deal with it anymore, you walk away - actually you're not needed in this story anymore - consider you're watching a play, some people come out, some people go back in and not coming out again.

telling her about her husband is what you have to consider more.

were you responsible to tell that?

as a friend to both - you biased against the husband, used his trust and bias for the wife and told her what she needed to know.

you didn't know he was breaking the rule, he had not an affair outside his marriage. he only told you he'd want to have an affair - who did he want (I don't have to know).

if you were in such situation again, what would you do? be honest.

imo you judged their personalities and marriage. also you didn't see he broke his marriage. well, idk what you knew and the extent you did - so i'm not considering this.

before you witnessed he broke his marriage, you shouldn't say he did. but if you only explained to his wife (your friend) what he said, then not bad - you didn't go beyond truth and made your own statement of a claim.

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but whatever happened, forget it. no need worthy of pondering - unless you're studying family/social subject. Just don't get involved between two people again - unless you were begged to inform.

Sometimes it causes a lot if trouble and is better to keep your nose out. For all you know he might not have given the full story. I think I would just not get involved but you've caused further arguments so there isn't much to say. Sometimes it's best to keep a confidence and not break if. If he'd wanted to tell his partner he would have. But he didn't want to x

You did the right thing and the wrong thing.

The right thing because: this lady doesn't deserve to be in a relationship where the man treats her like cr*p and goes behind her back with this comments. You've made it known to her and now it is down to her what she wants to do, whether she wants to continue with the relationship or go out there and find a better man whom she deserves.

The wrong thing because: seen as you're saying you're the Stranger (the third party) there is no reason for you to get involved in their relationship, even though you were basically invited into the problems. The man confided in you because he obviously couldn't handle keeping the secret to himself. It is down to the lady to learn this problem by herself and let her deal with it. It isn't your relationship, it is theirs. Let them suffer if their fate decides it. They'll learn in their own ways.

Well I can say that I believe that you deserve more.