Why is it so complicated dating a cancer?

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I've been talking to this cancer male 7-7-1991 for a little past a month and we've hit off famously I'm a Pisces 3-11-1991. We agreed to be friends first and take it slow. We have slept together twice and are still on good terms. I'm very open about my feelings but he isn't. I had surgery this Wednesday and he dropped me off at the hospital and the plan was for him to pick me up. But my mom decided to drop by unexpected and when he came to got me she was still there. Before my surgery he texted me "I like u and like u a lot and u make me smile with all u do... I care a lot but I told u I want to see where it goes I am in no rush" He seemed very uncomfortable and later told me he didn't want to meet my mom like that plus everyone assumed we were together. It seems like he is being forced into a relationship and asked for 2 days of space. This guy would write me poetry and see me whenever I requested. Very affectionate, a tad bit jealous and possessive if he doesn't get the attention he wants. But he can be a bit emotional. I'm scared I ran him off because he is asking for space for a day or 2. I want to assume he is being overly emotional and can't process the emotions that he is feeling for me.

Do you think he is done with me or is this space a good thing for him?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

The reason he seems complicated is because you don't want to admit what you are seeing .. that he is not committed to you and isn't sure he wants to be.

If you have been seeing each other for just over a month and have slept together twice, you are deluding yourself if you call this "taking it slow" or "being friends".  You are way into a relationship and quickly too.  Maybe not quickly in terms of your peer group, but for the nature of how to best-develop a relationship that lasts, you are moving way too quickly.

This guy doesn't share his feelings easily, has a lot of emotional fear, and acts rather compulsively (as opposed to being consciously in control of his behavior) .. he's not a good relationship risk.
Someone who gets a "tad bit jealous and possessive if he doesn't get the attention he wants" will become more and more jealous and possessive the longer you date him. Perhaps even physically abusive .. he shows the indications.
At the very best, it indicates that his idea of love is selfish .. based on him and what he wants and whether he is happy or emotionally-comfortable .. not on what you want or what makes you happy. And you have already seen that he has problems with his emotions .. the longer you are with him, the more he will blame YOU for them, and get angry at you for how he feels.

You should HOPE you have run him off ... at least, if you ever hope to find happiness in love, you should hope you have run him off.  He does not have the necessary skills and attributes that create a happy relationship for you.  But he is made-to-order if you think you deserve to be unhappy.

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In general men have difficult in showing emotion and their feelings.Cancer men are good and kind and loving person Source.

Anonymous · Answer

All I know is when a Cancer guy feels rushed/held down, deprived of space. He flees. Not forever though.

Anonymous · Answer

Cancer men are the easiest to read. They're emotional. Try a Aquarius that's complicated!

Ni Hao Ma? · Answer

I think he just wants some space. So I would give it to him if that's what he wants. Guys are notorious for not knowing how to deal with their emotions (not saying females are miles ahead either), but ya he could just need time to sort things out. Meeting your mom at the hospital is kind of weird but -stuff- happens, you know. Personally I never liked meeting my girlfriend's parents because it was kind of awkward.

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