Dani Vonne

He is away on a birthday trip for the weekend. He offered to stop by Friday night before he left but I was going to be busy. He texted Friday morning like normal but since he left and hasn't texted all Saturday. Would it be wrong to text him I'm thinking of him or something of that nature while he is away? We usually text all day and I miss him. We aren't together but are exclusively dating.

He usually gets mad if I ignore him all day. If it helps he has a Taurus moon, Leo venus & mars.

This cancer guy 7-7-1991 and I 3-11-1991 are fwbs for the last 2 months. He has made it clear he has caught feelings but wants to take it slow. I am not a patient person and flipped out trying to push him away. He fought it at first then accepted it. I changed my mind after a week and have been trying to get him back as a friend.

When I asked him if he could be my friend he said he liked me for a relationship and does not want me as a friend. He seems still hurt but has been texting asking about my health and what I'm doing. In our fight he said it was a waste of gas to see me last time. But he told me today we need to talk.

I told him i was worried because when ppl say that it usually ends up being bad news. He told me well this is not bad what I have to say.

What do you think he needs to talk about?

I'm a Pisces and I was talking to a cancer guy. He would play the break up game and want me to beg him to come back. After the 3rd time I decided to end things and he did not want to be broke up with. He really irked my nerves so I said whatever I could to hurt his feelings. He told me to delete his number and leave him alone.

On Sunday I felt bad so I sent him a 5 page text telling him that I was sorry and wrong. I wished him the best and that he would find what he is looking for. But I'm not it. That he didn't need to text back and to forget me

I know he read the message and he waited till today at 4pm to text back saying he didn't know what to believe about me anymore. I said if you feel that way then y text me. He said to respond to that long text message I sent. I pointed out that I asked him not to respond.

Why would he respond to the text 3 days later aren't they supposed to go I their shell and hid after rejection?

I'm kinda seeing a guy with these placements and we've hit a rough patch. A guy at work was harassing me and the cancer guy got mad because I wouldn't let him protect me and got pretty aggressive about wanting to get to the guy. I told him I didn't want him to get hurt plus I'm a passive person. So he took this as me not thinking highly of him and that I saw him as weak.

Not what I intended so he cut me out and said he's done. Told me to get lost pretty much and accused me of liking the other guy. The next day I sent him a long text about my feelings on what we could have been, what he had meant to me and how I felt like he wasted my time if he was going to be like this.

He texts back I do want you but you won't let me protect you and I care more about you than just friends.

Is he going to be aggressive and prideful when it comes to opinions on him all the time?

I thought cancers were sweet and shy does the fire in his chart make him different?

I have been dating this guy for a little bit. Chemistry was good and we ended up having sex the second date. He said sex is just sex and no emotional attachment. We are going to continue dating and see where it goes we both want something serious.

Over the coming days he started to say he doesn't want me talking to other guys and that we should be exclusive to each other.. I started getting I miss you text, you're beautiful and I'm thinking of you. One time after sex he said I hope this showed I missed you baby. So I assumed he caught feelings.

We recently got into an argument and the sex stopped by him refusing to see me; even when I told him I just want sex. 2 weeks later we had the conversation to fix things and he admitted he thought we had a good thing going that would be leading to a relationship before our argument. I said let's take things slow and we will be back to where we were at. He said ok and now he wants to resume sex.

I don't understand why the sex stopped if we were having a disagreement unless he started to get emotional attached and sex isn't just sex anymore? What do you think does he have feelings and are strings beginning to be attached to sex? He is a cancer and I'm a Pisces.

I have been dating this guy for a little bit. Chemistry was good and we ended up having sex the second date. He said sex is just sex and no emotional attachment. We are going to continue dating and see where it goes we both want something serious. Over the coming days he started to say he doesn't want me talking to other guys and that we should be exclusive to each other..

I started getting I miss you text, you're beautiful and I'm thinking of you. One time after sex he said I hope this showed I missed you baby.

So I assumed he caught feelings. We recently got into an argument and the sex stopped by him refusing to see me; even when I told him I just want sex. 2 weeks later we had the conversation to fix things and he admitted he thought we had a good thing going that would be leading to a relationship before our argument. I said let's take things slow and we will be back to where we were at. He said ok and now he wants to resume sex.

I don't understand why the sex stopped if we were having a disagreement unless he started to get emotional attached and sex isn't just sex anymore? What do you think does he have feelings and are strings beginning to be attached to sex?

I' m dating a cancer guy who has asked that I not talk to any guy while we are seeing where things go. We had sex and I freaked out because I'm not the type of girl to sleep with someone if I'm not in a relationship. I've only slept with one other guy. He told me sex was just sex and it doesn't change how we are.

We recently got into a disagreement due to him accidently meeting my mom. He felt like he was being forced into a relationship by that move. He has been a bit distant and started withholding sex and not spending time with me. Finally I got through to him and he suppose to come over this weekend.

He also stated we had a good thing leading to a relationship before the whole situation but now he isn't too sure. I told him let's take things slow we both like each other and put some faith in me. He said I'm still here so it's obvious I want something serious.

We both agree if we get together it should be towards marriage.

If sex is just sex and no feelings involved then why withhold sex just because a cancer is mad? Aren't guys supposed to be able to separate sex and love?

FYI we are 25 so it's not teenagers.

Male: Sun Cancer /Moon Taurus /Venus Leo/ Mars Taurus

Female: Sun Pisces/ Moon Capricorn/ Venus Aries / Mars Gemini/ ascendant Cancer

Are these two compatible what will they be like in a relationship?

I've been talking to this cancer male 7-7-1991 for a little past a month and we've hit off famously I'm a Pisces 3-11-1991. We agreed to be friends first and take it slow. We have slept together twice and are still on good terms. I'm very open about my feelings but he isn't. I had surgery this Wednesday and he dropped me off at the hospital and the plan was for him to pick me up. But my mom decided to drop by unexpected and when he came to got me she was still there. Before my surgery he texted me "I like u and like u a lot and u make me smile with all u do... I care a lot but I told u I want to see where it goes I am in no rush" He seemed very uncomfortable and later told me he didn't want to meet my mom like that plus everyone assumed we were together. It seems like he is being forced into a relationship and asked for 2 days of space. This guy would write me poetry and see me whenever I requested. Very affectionate, a tad bit jealous and possessive if he doesn't get the attention he wants. But he can be a bit emotional. I'm scared I ran him off because he is asking for space for a day or 2. I want to assume he is being overly emotional and can't process the emotions that he is feeling for me.

Do you think he is done with me or is this space a good thing for him?

I've been talking to this cancer male 7-7-1991 for a little past a month and we've hit off famously I'm a Pisces 3-11-1991. We agreed to be friends first and take it slow. We have slept together twice and are still on good terms. I'm very open about my feelings but he isn't. I had surgery this Wednesday and he dropped me off at the hospital and the plan was for him to pick me up. But my mom decided to drop by unexpected and when he came to got me she was still there.

Before my surgery he texted me "I like u and like u a lot and u make me smile with all u do... I care a lot but I told u I want to see where it goes I am in no rush"

He seemed very uncomfortable and later told me he didn't want to meet my mom like that plus everyone assumed we were together. It seems like he is being forced into a relationship and asked for 2 days of space.

This guy would write me poetry and see me whenever I requested. Very affectionate, a tad bit jealous and possessive if he doesn't get the attention he wants. But he can be a bit emotional.

I'm scared I ran him off because he is asking for space for a day or 2. I want to assume he is being overly emotional and can't process the emotions that he is feeling for me. Have I lost him?

He is a cancer with a mars in leo. I am a pices with a Venus in aries. I've been talking to the cancer male for a bit. He had advised me he wants to be friends first and go with the flow. Through misunderstandings he has made it clear that he does not want me spending time with other males. We have had sex twice despite saying we are trying to be friends first. After sex he states this is his way of showing he misses me.

I cook and bring him breakfast or lunch a few times in the week. We still refer to each other as friends. Last night I was with getting my hair done for an event, I told him I would text him later. 9 hours go by and he sends an angry text feeling forgotten. So he ignores me till morning.

The next day we clear it up and in the middle of conversation he states to check in with him and not disappear for hours on end. He said he has feelings involved in our friendship. Later he sends a text saying we are dating. I don't question it because he only clams up.

Has the cancer fallen for me or is this just a mind game they play?

Guy I'm talking to got mad at me on Saturday. He is a total homebody and prefers to stay in. I like to go out once in a while. I made the joke of making him go out and doing something. He said nope he rather stay in. I made the joke of saying you don't want to be seen with me in public lol.

He got mad and said I hate when you act like that the jokes you make about you are not funny Ttyl. I got made and told him I'm sarcastic but if he wants to be like that have a great weekend instead. He said fine since you want to take it that far.

So I texted him later Sunday apologizing and telling him I was thinking of him. No answer. I did the same thing on Monday and his reply was that I told him I would talk to him Tuesday and he would wait till then to speak to me.

It's Tuesday, do I wait on him to text me or should I? Why would he even respond on Monday?

I met this guy D online, we emailed and soon began texting back and forth. Chemistry is there, we both have the same ideas of marriage, careers etc. He would send me poetry and hopes I was the one he was waiting for. We met and had a great first date. So great in fact the next day we decided to hang out again. We ended up having sex. After sex I made dinner and he stayed 3 more hours laughing and watching movies.

I kinda freaked out because he was only the 2nd guy I've slept with. I began pulling away he noticed and told me he has to be friends first before a relationship and to go with the flow. He states he likes me and is very sexually attracted to me.

I'm still not to sure if I messed things up. He texts that he is thinking of me. If I don't text him first everyday he will text me. He is sweet and our conversations are still in the getting to know you phase. We have talked about sex.

Should I continue to see where this goes with sex involved or am I doomed to be a bootycall?

Second date sex a rule breaker for girlfriend material?

Dominique and I have been best friends since freshman year of high school. We immediately knew we had an attraction for each other. He had a girlfriend and I was his best friend, we kissed , we hung out and I mooned after him all 4 years. Finally senior year I was fed up being the other girl (mind you virgin entire time) I stopped talking to him. Our families tried to get us to talk again to no avail. The summer after graduation he finally came around and asked me to be his girlfriend and how I was always there for him. I said no and decided to date another guy. He didn't take that well and decided we couldn't be friends anymore.

Fast forward 2 years we are 20 &19. He has since joined the military and it was like we never separated. He was newly in and was feeling lonely and reached out to me again after not talking for years. He decides that he wants to marry me and wants to start a life together. I accept thinking he realizes that what he had all along and really wants to give it a shot. He gets shipped overseas and I believe he went through something traumatic and shut down on everyone including his family.

Six months later he contacts me again trying to apologize and I would have none of it. I told him I was so hurt and looked dumb picking out wedding dresses and everything to be blown off again and told him to stop contacting me. I blocked him on Facebook and from my phone.

Fast forward 2 more years (22 and 23 years old) and he hits me up on Facebook asking to meet because he is on leave and in town. I go over to his house and its pretty awkward between us. We make small talk and agree to keep in touch since he leaves in 3 days. He texts me later that night saying I was still attractive and glad I gave him a chance. He invites me to come stay with him in May for a week. I agree but later we have to cancel since he is getting deployed over seas again.

Now its August and I will be going to Fort Sill for my brothers graduation ceremony from Army basic training. Dominique invites me to stay with him a couple days since I will be out his way anyway and says he really wants me to see him. He wont have complete free time with me because of work commitments. We know the attraction is there and he has made all these efforts to get me in his life. He also wants to talk about why he shut down after proposing.

Why would he keep insisting me to be apart of his life?

Would it be wrong if we slept together or do you think that would tell me what he really wants?

Is this just him trying to clear his guilt or something?

8 hours ago - 4 days left to answer.

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I know this is not related to marriage but I need some mature answers. Im getting ready to leave for boot camp myself and I want this issue cleared before I go myself.

Dominique and I have been best friends since freshman year of high school. We immediately knew we had an attraction for each other. He had a girlfriend and I was his best friend, we kissed , we hung out and I mooned after him all 4 years. Finally senior year I was fed up being the other girl (mind you virgin entire time) I stopped talking to him. Our families tried to get us to talk again to no avail. The summer after graduation he finally came around and asked me to be his girlfriend and how I was always there for him. I said no and decided to date another guy. He didn't take that well and decided we couldn't be friends anymore.

Fast forward 2 years we are 20 &19. He has since joined the military and it was like we never separated. He was newly in and was feeling lonely and reached out to me again after not talking for years. He decides that he wants to marry me and wants to start a life together. I accept thinking he realizes that what he had all along and really wants to give it a shot. He gets shipped overseas and I believe he went through something traumatic and shut down on everyone including his family.

Six months later he contacts me again trying to apologize and I would have none of it. I told him I was so hurt and looked dumb picking out wedding dresses and everything to be blown off again and told him to stop contacting me. I blocked him on Facebook and from my phone.

Fast forward 2 more years (22 and 23 years old) and he hits me up on Facebook asking to meet because he is on leave and in town. I go over to his house and its pretty awkward between us. We make small talk and agree to keep in touch since he leaves in 3 days. He texts me later that night saying I was still attractive and glad I gave him a chance. He invites me to come stay with him in May for a week. I agree but later we have to cancel since he is getting deployed over seas again.

Now its August and I will be going to Fort Sill for my brothers graduation ceremony from Army basic training. Dominique invites me to stay with him a couple days since I will be out his way anyway and says he really wants me to see him. He wont have complete free time with me because of work commitments. We know the attraction is there and he has made all these efforts to get me in his life. He also wants to talk about why he shut down after proposing.

Why would he keep insisting me to be apart of his life?

Would it be wrong if we slept together or do you think that would tell me what he really wants?

Is this just him trying to clear his guilt or something?

Dominique and I have been best friends since freshman year of high school. We immediately knew we had an attraction for each other. He had a girlfriend and I was his best friend, we kissed , we hung out and I mooned after him all 4 years. Finally senior year I was fed up being the other girl (mind you virgin entire time) I stopped talking to him. Our families tried to get us to talk again to no avail. The summer after graduation he finally came around and asked me to be his girlfriend. I declined and we stopped talking. I didn't want to be the ego stroker for him anymore.

Fast forward 2 years we are 20 &19. He has since joined the military and it was like we neverseparatedd. He really needed someone in his corner and I was there. We felt the same attraction for each other and still had yet to actually date. He decides to say I've always been there for him and wants to get married and what not. I accept thinking " finally he realizes". He gets shipped overseas and I believe he went through somethingtraumaticc and shut down on everyone including his family.

Six months later he contacts me again trying to apologize and I would have none of it. I told him I was so hurt and looked dumb picking out wedding dresses and everything to be blown off again and told him to stop contacting me. I told him he is a child and he needs to grow up and realize that I always had his back and he just keeps kicking dirt at me. Im done.

Fast forward 2 more years and he hits me up on face book asking to meet because he is on leave and in town. We hang out and its pretty awkward so many hurt feelings and questions. We start to talk once in a while. He left asking me to visit him in new mexico and I agreed reluctantly. I was really worried that this will be just another pie in my face. I told him I am not playing this 10 year game with him and to stop wasting my time. He states that he is very much attracted me and knows he has messed up and really wants me to come down and visit and stay with him for the week. He says he is very much attracted to me and has done a lot of growing up since then and wants to talk to face to face about why he proposed and left me high and dry.

I feel so dumb but I am still attracted to this man and we both were young and dumb at the time and have grown up. I bought the plane ticket and ready to see him next month. Question is should I give him another chance in my life or should I let him go after his explanation?

So Julio and I were dating a little over a year before we broke up due to family issues and it causing stress on our relationship. We broke up from April to late June, in the time apart I ended up rekindling with ex and slept with that person. Well Julio and I ended up getting back together because he kept trying to win me back during the break up, I immediately told him what I had done once back together, he denied sleeping with anyone.

I didn't believe him because he was adamant that he change his number ( which was a major issue with ex-gfs calling him all the time but refused to change it back then). I already saw the multiple girls he was texting and nude photos they sent. In an argument I told him I know the truth that he did sleep with someone and that I knew he lied about it repeatedly.

I advise him that I am not mad at what he did but the fact that he lied, on top of that he barely knew the chick and did not use a condom. When we got back together we didn't use them as I am infertile and by him not disclosing his actions he put me at risk as well as me putting myself at risk for not being smart.

He claims he did not tell me because he knew if he did I would not have taken him back. I can admit maybe we would not have been back together but we would have been friends. Now I really don't trust him because that is a huge lie and a health risk that he subjected me to without giving me the option. He seemed remorseful and stated he should have just kept it in his pants but was feeling low and bad about himself and after the sex he felt ashamed. He was worried I was going to break up with him and said that is not what he wants for me to do but understands if I want to walk away. Im just really hurt and haven't had sex with him since I found out.

Why lie? I'm trying to understand and not bash him but it really has effected my trust for him because now I can only assume what else he will lie about to keep me. He is now planning a mini vacay to get away this weekend but I told him to cancel it. Im not mad about him sleeping with another Im mad at the lie and the risk he put me in....

What would you do in my shoes?

I'm 21 and recently moved back in with my mom after living on my own for almost a year. I dated Julio for a year and couple months , lost my virginity and moved out with him into his house. He really didn't like how controlling and intrusive my mom was in our relationship. She could call and make me cry in a second or I'd be across town and she would want me to drop everything to go to the store and buy something she needed when she was closer to the store. She would say negative things about him and how I was stupid to be with him. And would start fights between Julio and I.

She didn't like him because he was seven years older than me, took my virginity and has two kids. He was also recently out of the military and don't want to work for a while as he wanted to spend time with his family. We moved in together and got into a lot of arguments and his mother was racist. Needless to say we broke up and my mom was estatic. Meanwhile I was miserable and sad.

While we were broken up my ex has gotten promoted twice at his new job and is making a great living. He sought help for his anger issues and wants to get married. Unfortunately my mom has been saying all these negative things and how I'm much better without my ex. I've seen the change in him but my mom will kick me out if she knew he was back in the picture.

I want him and i just want my mom to tolerate it without all the issues. I would like to live with him and keep my relationship with my mom . What should I do?

Julio and I have been dating for about fourteen months, I'm 21 and he is 28. We dated pretty seriously but made it known he did not want to get married or have anymore children. I stayed even though I knew I wanted this, dealt with his racist mother and crazy family in hopes he would eventually change his mind. I gave this man my virginity my heart pretty much everything. My mom hated him and caused me to be kicked out of her house. I got my own place and lived on my own.

Well Julio and I broke up for two months and recently got back in contact. He admitted he bought me a Tiffany's ring and threw it out once I had said I couldn't be with him. He said he was miserable without me and wanted to give me whatever my heart desires kids and marriage. He owned up to all his faults and has really implemented a change in himself but he did admit he didn't understand the idea of marriage but would do it if it meant having me in his life.

Why would someone get married if they don't believe in the idea?

Julio and I have been dating for about fourteen months, I'm 21 and he is 28. We dated pretty seriously but made it known he did not want to get married or have anymore children. I stayed even though I knew I wanted this, dealt with his racist mother and crazy family in hopes he would eventually change his mind. I gave this man my virginity my heart pretty much everything. My mom hated him and caused me to be kicked out of her house. I got my own place and lived on my own.

Well Julio and I broke up for two months and recently got back in contact. He admitted he bought me a Tiffany's ring and threw it out once I had said I couldn't be with him. He said he was miserable without me and wanted to give me whatever my heart desires kids and marriage. He owned up to all his faults and has really implemented a change in himself but he did admit he didn't understand the idea of marriage but would do it if it meant having me in his life.

Why would someone get married if they don't believe in the idea?