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He doesn't get the purpose of marriage , why not?

Julio and I have been dating for about fourteen months, I'm 21 and he is 28. We dated pretty seriously but made it known he did not want to get married or have anymore children. I stayed even though I knew I wanted this, dealt with his racist mother and crazy family in hopes he would eventually change his mind. I gave this man my virginity my heart pretty much everything. My mom hated him and caused me to be kicked out of her house. I got my own place and lived on my own.

Well Julio and I broke up for two months and recently got back in contact. He admitted he bought me a Tiffany's ring and threw it out once I had said I couldn't be with him. He said he was miserable without me and wanted to give me whatever my heart desires kids and marriage. He owned up to all his faults and has really implemented a change in himself but he did admit he didn't understand the idea of marriage but would do it if it meant having me in his life.

Why would someone get married if they don't believe in the idea?

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  • 9 years ago
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    he's desperate i think. but don't marry him until you're sure that he's marrying you for the right reasons. i'd suggest going to some sort of marriage counseling (i realize you're not married, but it might help).

  • Because he wants to be with you.

    Recommended to take it slow, take time to get to know the person. Try to keep things clean, less baggage. Let 7 years of perfect relationship before marriage (if you want you can always be engaged and married after that 7 years has passed). After 7 solid years of perfect marriage then a child if desired.

    If things are minor I usually just wouldn't even give it a second thought. If it is major I just fix it the best way and that's it. Maybe this will be a good method for you guys. Always reinforce it with Love

    Take Premarital counseling it helps tons.

    Either way for later as a wife if you decide make sure to take care of him always in the love making area. I hope you can be stay at home wife ([no school]events with guys around unless your husband is there 100%) that takes care of all the woman things and he is taking care of all the man things like lifting, fixing working outside and handling all those jerks, and if you do work outside you know what I mean. I hope you can be a home wife so the marriage can be a loving one with peace. He wants a feminine wife not a worker guy

    Always talking is good. Find a private place to talk with time to talk. Never teach, just inform if necessary and in a meek manner. Handle the kids and teach them with few words and listen well, pay attention to details. If some parts kids can't be handled then inform the husband.

    Be a good wife and make sure all the cooking and cleaning is done. Stay Fit, Smell Good, Dress well. Make sure to make love when ever either of you want.

    Be meek. Quick to listen, slow to speak. Only tell him things when needed. Never teach him. If you do tell him something make sure it is kindly. Handle the kids, and if you notice you can't for sure then inform him in a kindly way.

    Hugs and kisses are always good any time, instead in front of the guys otherwise the guys might want some too. Make sure to let him know to keep the making love part private.

    On another note you seem to be a very nice person, so I like to add that what ever person you want a serious relationship with, take your time (years) and really really really see if this is the person you will spend your whole life with. If you can even better never get married and just enjoy your life with nothing serious, make sure the other party knows your intentions. I also like to add though, in marriage it is a different kinda love, a very valuable kinda love. Always do whats best for everyone like what you did when you asked this question,

    Try your best. Love like you never love before. This is the best way for love to come and start surrounding your life. May love be around you, through you and is you.

    Love and the Good Life will come

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