I think my friend is a narcissist? How do u deal with people like that?

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My friend is super obsessed with her appearance. She lacks empathy and says the wrong thing. For example, my lecturer approached me and said the tut would b cancelled due to him having to attend a funeral of a close friend. My friend says "at least ur whole family didn't die in a car accident". She always talks about herself, and I don't think she cares about what's happening in others lives. I did a group assignment with her and ended up doing the whole thing. She lied throughout that whole experience, put me through hell, and has not once apologised or recognised she did the wrong thing. She invites people over to my house for a party then doesn't show up and leaves me to entertain them. I didn't even want people to come over. How do I deal with a person like this? Are they a narcissist?

Anonymous · Answer

Dump her. Seriously, why the hell would you hang out with someone like that? If she's treating you like garbage, let her know. If she won't change, well fine then, there are many more people you could hang out with who will treat you WAY better than she does.

I know this doesn't answer your question "how to deal with narcissistic people", but then again why should you deal with it? You don't owe her anything, so move on, there are loads of better people for you.

Alεssα · Answer

Your friend sounds very selfish and controlling and she doesn’t sound like a good friend at all. If I was you I would ditch her but if you think that you can salvage the friendship then you have to be honest with her and set boundaries. First of all you need to speak up and call her out on her unacceptable behaviour. Say to her that you value your friendship and that’s why you need to tell her the truth. I would then be honest with her and tell her how you feel. Don’t be afraid of telling her truth because she needs to hear it and know when she is crossing the line.

If she accepts what you are saying then you could suggest a way to move forward in the friendship. If your friend argues with you and throws a “tantrum” then I would just politely say that you are leaving and walk away. I would seriously consider if it’s worth being friends with her anymore. If she is refusing to face the facts or if she turns it around on you and blames you then I would cut ties with her. You’re not doing yourself any favours by enabling her toxic tendencies so just wish her well and move on.

Gabriella · Answer

She's a Fake friend!!

? · Answer

She seems more like a sociopath, which is more than simply being narcissistic. She also lies and seems very controlling.  She is not your friend,  only using you

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I think my friend is a narcissist? How do u deal with people like that?

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