What can i do?

oh god. do another honey moon. if that doesn't work, leave her. do the whole stupid alimony thing so that she doesn't feel abandoned and she can be on her meds.

one time I had a girlfriend for a week; one day she decided to put me down in front of my friends and I dumped her right then and there. she didn't believe it.

I don't play those stupid games.

What she is doing is a form of emotional black mail, YOU cannot assume responsibility for a suicidal persons life. The way she is treating you is unhealthy and in time will only do both of you emotional harm. She needs to see a good CLINICAL psychologist or psychiatrist and get on the mend. Should she decline or therapy fails, then you need to cut the cord to this emotional black hole you have attached yourself to...she will eventually suck all the life from you.

Get up, pick up the phone and begin to take some positive action.

You have to get rid of her. If a female mad this topic about a man, he'd be considered "abusive" and needed to be divorced. You have to realize that men do not have any support besides themselves and you need to do what's best for YOU.

GET RID OF HER.

Divorce her and tell her to pack her bags. Don't be that idiot who becomes miserable or gets killed for trying to "work things out" with an unstable woman who doesn't respect men.

It really sounds as tho the two of you could use the help of a Professional counsellor to try to help you sort out your different situations. I KNOW it's hard when there are a LOT of negative things happening in our lives. Oh how I've been rite there. I too am on depression meds. for 7 yrs. now, so know that route also. Before you do anything serious & final, why not at least give counselling a go. I've sure done my fare share over the yrs., can truly say it does help. The more you say, the more you'll receive in return. IF the counsellor doesn't believe your marriage will work, he/she WILL tell you as mine did & was rite!! At least you can have a clear consious that you did everything in your power before you make any "final" decisions. I can well appreciate your feelings, but at least give it a try. If it works it works, if not no one can say you at least didn't try. Also, IF by chance she refuses counselling, make sure YOU GO. At least you can get your questions answered & know you're doing the rite things...all the best to you...:)

She is suffering and not because of you. People do things to other people because they are unhappy. It is not your job to make her happy, it is hers. You cannot worry about her harming herself, if she is to that point she needs to be in counseling. I commend you for sticking it out even though she is being ABUSIVE to you in front of others, but in reality, you have to be healthy to be a good husband. She needs to see a therapist and if she wont, then you may need to give yourself some space from her until she stops with the abusive ways, its not ok to be treated that way by anyone, even if they are depressed. By you staying and tolerating it, she knows its ok to continue doing it so you are not helping break her habit.

But by being compassionate and loving and calmly telling her it is not ok and you will not tolerate it anymore you are setting a boundary as to what is expected of her to do. You can work through the depression together, but in a non abusive, non confrontational way, as long as she is willing.

I would take the reasons you argue and see if they are real, viable things to be arguing about or if you or her are just dwelling or stirring up old things that need to be put to rest. Then I would discuss CALMLY how to fix those things. If she is not willing to be calm or you feel yourself loosing that calm then remove yourself from the situation until you or her have calmed, then try again.

There are reasons behind all of it, and until you get to the core issues and deal with them, the other stuff will keep coming up and be an issue. Listening, open communication about your real feelings are vital, and YOU may have to play the parent roll in this situation when she is acting out like a child by stopping the arguing before it starts and monitoring her behavior and moods before you talk about an issue.....hope that makes sense. And get her into counseling if you can, or you go on your own seriously....

ok listen just take her on a holidy or week end somewhere far from home switch off all networks n try to spend time with her it gives you better understanding, thanks.