When is best to visit new mother and baby to stay for a few weeks?

I would also 2nd the idea of waiting until the 2nd or 3rd week to give mom and baby time to find a routine. There is so much you could help do- changing the baby. holding her, putting her to sleep to give mom a break. You can also help clean- wash dishes, cook meals, do laundry. I loved the fact every time my mom came over she would just wash dishes. It was so nice, she knew she didn't have to, but the fact she clean the kitchen took one less thing off my plate and helped me not be so stressed. She also sounds like there is only men in the house so she will probably enjoy having you there since you can relate to whats going on and keep her company. You can always ask her what you can do to help but most of all just enjoy your visit with your daughter and new grandbaby!

When does she want you to visit? It's really up to her. I always liked having my mom there for the birth and the days immediately after but not staying at my house. And of course you can be help in getting her more sleep, after she nurses let her go lie down and you hold and cuddle the baby until the next feeding.

It would be best to not think of it as "enjoying your visit" as if it were going to be the same as it would be if there were no baby and exhausted mother. Focus instead on talking to her to find out her needs. And be prepared to help in any way possible.

It is really up to the mother, but the first six weeks are vital and she may need help during this time, but do not be too intrusive because mommy and baby need time to set a routine and bond

For me, i didn't like long term visitors until after the first week or two. Give her that first week to adjust for herself and baby, then the following week or two she will probably be more than ready for your help and visit.

Ask her - not us.