is this normal for a 16 year old?

It's normal not to be rushing headlong into relations. It just means you're more pragmatic than most. I had a 'crush' on a boy in 7th grade, /years ago/, and I have to say...never again. Not till I'm 30 at least. It was absolutely disastrous.

Anyway, I'm like you. I don't understand all the hype on getting hitched. We've still got lives, isn't it more important to build a future than do this kind of thing for now? A lot of friends are running around worrying about pregnancy, and then there's me, sitting off in the corner and spouting off medical-textbook advice... oh, gosh. It actually feels a bit sad.

To answer the question about your friend..not everyone can be numb towards the bull crap. My parents divorced when I was young, and tensions between my father and stepfather...well, my bro and I didn't give a darn, whereas our half-brother was constantly in tears whenever my mother and stepfather so much as argued, never mind the fights that would erupt back then. He still does, actually, even though it's been years since we've seen head nor tail of [sarcasm] good ol' Dad.

You got good and supportive answers, with which I agree. I just want to ask two questions: what is "IST J" ? And how is it that you identify as a girl, but your name is that of a boy? (When you use abbreviations like the one above, not everyone will know what you mean and thus be less able to provide you with the best answer. Dr. S

of course youre normal, youre more normal than these young girls playing with still-unfully-grown *****es everywhere, 16-year-old dating and sexually active with another 16 year old?!! wtf...you think these girls are better than you?..ask yourself.

I understand your thinking Teo.

I wish that more girls thought the way that you do.

However, nature her self has plans for us to follow and it is for us to propagate. The sexual attractions are in us from the beginning of our life whether we realize it or not. When the hormone turn on their power, it hit us like a ton of bricks. What makes us different form other forms of life is our process of reasoning and communication. As we mature as adults we begin to understand what control our life and we try to mhttps://s.yimg.com/dh/ap/social/profile/profile_b9... a better life for our kids. As you know that doesn't always work. We are forming our own sense of what we think as reality. We question a lot about our self and others. Our 'Love' part kicks in. We seem to forget or ignore what we have been told by our parents or guardians that have presented us with cautions. We can preach all day as parents or mentors but in the end our kids are going to do as they wish. One on one communication is the best form of guidance as parents or mentors that expresses our love and care for our children. It often doesn't work. Thankfully other times it does. We all want to 'fit in' but I just hope that it's in a positive way and that our youth are not misled by those that want to corrupt our youth with sex and drugs and alcohol. As for you, I think that you think in a positive way. I wish you the best.

BTW, I had a very nice girl friend that was fortunate to go to an all girls school. She was very well educated. We had a lot of good times together. Nothing sexual though. Just as great friends.

Take care young lady.

I don't know if it's normal but it's pretty wise of you. It just shows that you're mature and want a real relationship. That's a really good thing too.