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? asked in Family & RelationshipsFriends · 7 years ago

Is my friend going to call me again AND should I even care if she calls me again?

Update:

We were friends in high school and lost touch. About 30 years later we found eachother on FB. About a year ago her mom got cancer and died as a good friend I went to her mom house and helped my friend clean house every weekend for 9 months. Now my Mom has stage 4 lung cancer and found that out about 3 months ago. 3 weeks ago I lost my job. I have recently gone through a deep depression because of it. I am in therapy now. my friend and I went out to dinner and I was being more negative than usual plus I think I was rude with my tone of voice "why are you so impatient"? We were waiting for the waitress who was slow. I am pilled up with emotion right now. So 2 days went by after our lunch and I had a feeling she was ignoring my text message and phone calls. Then she blocked me on FB. So I called from a phone number she did not recognize and she answered and heard my voice and said "What". I asked her why she booted me on fb. She replied I did not block you on FB

Update 2:

I deleted my profile. I found out that was not true. I text her and she said I did that because I just needs space right now. I still want to be friends. I told her the way she did it was hurtful. She replied I am very sorry you are hurt that is not my intention. I just need space. So I am giving her space.

I am thinking she did not have to text me back after phone call if she was not interested in being friends in the future. Maybe she really is needing some space and will call later. It just hurts because I spent 9 months every weekend helping her and in my time of need she is not there and I did appologize for being rude.

Update 3:

QUESTION BECAUSE SHE TEXT ME BACK DO YOU THINK SHE WILL CALL IN THE FUTURE OR IS SHE NEVER GOING TO CALL.

Also thinking hard times reveal true friends and we could have talked about what happened. Instead of her ignoring me. So should I even care if she calls back.

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  • 7 years ago

    I also have depression, some friends have stayed with me others I don't talk to so much anymore.. but even the ones that have stayed I have had not had 100% good times with.. there have been some problems sometimes and my best friend even left me more than once but after things started calming down and we talked we came to an understandment of each other's point of views I understood that I wasn't giving him a great time to be around either, it can be stressful to some people I guess...

    The point is, she might call back she might just need time. I think you should give her time and if she doesn't then it's ok you can go on without her since it seems you did more for her anyways than vice versa from what you tell us.

    Good luck, I hope you feel better

  • Anonymous
    7 years ago

    It is only reasonable that you have so many emotions going on right now, you lost your mother, your job and going through a depression. You have to know that your negative energy affects those around you and drains them of their energy. My boyfriend is going through a rough patch at the moment and also has had a negative view although i always suggest looking at the positive side of things, he just doesn't see it which then affects my mood because i feel like there's always a solution and Happiness is a state of mind, if you want to be happy you will. I also can sympathize with your situation because you helped your friend in times of need and when you needed her she wasn't there. You already apologized to your friend you can't make her talk to her. Perhaps this is a blessing in disguise, it is true that you know who your real friends are in times of need and it sounds to me like she isn't. Cut off communication with her, move on with your life and surround yourself with people who love and care for your well being. Have you tried enrolling in some classes to help you get over depression, maybe an art class, pottery, cooking, gardening? Anything you feel like you'd like to participate in go for it, you accomplish nothing by staying home. I am pretty sure there are support groups for depression even online, you should dig into that and perhaps you'd find one close to your residence. Make sure to tell your therapist about this situation with your friend after all he/she is a licensed professional and knows what he/she is talking about. I hear that these depression medicine are hardcore, have you talked to your doctor and asking for a higher or lower dosage if not then it is something that should be talked about with him. Take care my friend, and I hope you find peace and happiness soon.

  • Anonymous
    7 years ago

    Nobody could say whether she will call in the future but if she doesn't then she is not much of a friend is she ? also if she doesn't get in touch she is not worth caring about . Some people are givers and some people are takers and you seem to one one of the givers .

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