do elderly plp miss their parents?

I am 64 years old and my mother just died this past December.

My dad died when I was 42 years old and he was my hero, my best friend.

I miss both of my parents. It is very weird to suddenly be the older generation. I still feel like I am 25 yrs old I really didn't understand that I would actually get old, It is very weird to look in a mirror and see my older body just get older.

Thank you everyone. I'm sorry for your loss. I just wanted to understand this about the elderly people because they might see life differently after living through all the stages.. I guess you never lost that contact with parents. They are the reason we were here.

Not everyone has ideal parents. I miss my dad, he was fun and kind. I miss the relationship I longed for my whole life with my mother but never had but that's it. The more we tried, the worse it got.She was a very cruel, ruthless, sadistic woman to all of us and some wounds never heal. I hope she has found peace as I am trying.

Of course they do just because their old doesn't mean their not human anymore, My dad is 65 years old both of his parents are gone I'm sure he misses them all the time, my mom also last both parents and she only 54 I'm sure no matter how old she gets she'll always miss them too.

You can miss people even after you've made peace with their deaths. Yes, elderly people miss their parents.

Charlie (above) puts it well.

For better or worse - PARENTS are usually our touch-stones - or points of reference - as WE come to terms with the whole business of ageing, developing, maturing, etc.

I was an ORPHAN - at age 65 'ish - when my mum and dad threw off their mortal coil, aged 93 and 96 respectively.

As happened - I wasn't close to either - to my mother because she was a rather embittered, unpleasant person - or to my father, because he'd left home when I was age 11 - distancing himself (wisely) from his wife's angry tantrums - and bouts of physical violence.

One could say both parents were 'dead' to me LONG before the funeral bells tolled for them - but as Charlie (above) comments - the thing you have to adjust to is - ALL OF SUDDEN - finding oneself (prepared or not) - CLOSEST to the gates of the local church or crematorium.

TRYING as best one can - to KID ones grown-up Children and treasured Grand-children one IS taking it all in ones stride,,,,etc.

Because - if we old'uns can't or won't - who else can the young'uns look to ?

Family is like a romantic relationship. It demands work.