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Does my friend who is a girl like me?

I've become really close to this girl who I've been friends with for about a year. Recently, I've began to develop feelings for her. I've often found myself jealous when guys are flirting with her. However, I feel like also she feels something for me. She often makes physical contact with me and remains close to me in a public setting. At times she makes comments that indicate we are just friends like talking about girls that like me or talking about guys that like her. I feel like this could be something she does to keep her distance but I could be overlooking this. I personally feel like we would be perfect for each other. Do I have a chance with her or have I been friendzoned permanently? If there is a chance, how do I approach either telling or showing her that I want to be more than friends?

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  • 7 years ago

    I take it you are an outed lesbian to her right? If so clearly she is not bothered by this. I have had some lesbians friends & they knew very well I was strait so if there were any feelings they knew it wasn't going to be felt on my side. Has she made you aware that she is only in to men? It's pretty easy to tell sometimes just by how a girl acts. Boy crazy, always pointing out cute guys, talking about them, etc. And this can be mild but still obvious.

    It's hard to say her comments of stating you two are just friends is her saying "not interested" or just not wanting you to think she likes you. It's hard because everyone is different and reading a detail over the internet is not as simple as actually seeing body language. If she is not interested you risk the chance of making things awkward between the friendship, but what if she is? Tough because a friendship makes this delicate.

    I remember me & my strait friends would be super close, even my gay friends. We'd always be close to each other physically but only because we were very close friends, strong bonds. Sisterly.

    It might be helpful to get another trusted person involved to maybe get info from her. Not like a high school set up like having a friend go & ask a crush if you like so & so but rather just to get subtle answers that can lead you in a direction to figure it out. Don't have someone straight out ask "are you interested?" That's just awkward, ya know?

    Do what you feel is right. I know it's not what you may want to hear but you know best, it takes time to figure out what you need sometimes though. You're friends, ask her if she's ever been attracted to women maybe. You can tell her a time when you may have liked a guy or something relatable. This could open her up to some helpful info. But don't be obvious why you are asking, just bring it up in an appropriate conversation, like when she does talk about guys liking her & girls liking you.

  • 7 years ago

    I do think there's a possibility of her liking you. Not many people know this, but girls often develop feelings for their guy best friends too. I know when I liked my guy best friend I would always talk about girls liking him or when people would ask me I'd tell them no just because I was afraid what would happen if he found out. Maybe she's feeling the same way. Try sending her signals you're interested. I know everyone always says this, but just tell her how you feel. The worst thing that could happen is she doesn't feel the same. Chances are she does. Good luck!

  • Anonymous
    7 years ago

    That is actually very true your instincts are correct because she is interested in you.Bringing up other girls and guys is a sign of interest to avoid the topic about wanting you. Be the first to tell her how you feel.

  • I think she likes as a friend not more than anything. she feels safe when she is with you and likes to spend time with you.My opinion is that you should take more time and you indirectly can ask her.

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