Yelled at my brother because he got into a car with a drunk driver? Was I in the wrong?

We always snap at such a bad display of intelligence. Something that seems to OBVIOUS to you, and yet he's making jokes about it.

You are angry at him for thinking so cavalier (means useless) about his own life. Your brother is living his life by hoping that nothing bad will happen to him. So he gets into situations like getting in car with drunk driver, and never expects there'll be a problem. Now.....the problem is that you got angry with him.

And, as you should understand, when the "adult" starts yelling, the kids clam and shut up. So like Anonymous said, you've got to let things calm down. Go to him later, in a really calm attitude, almost apologetic, or I should say humble, and explain you were upset because you feared for his safety, and would have thot he'd have chosen a better thing to do.

And he'll probably not listen anyway, and do stupid stuff like that most of his life.

It's a hard thing to do, to let go and let him do his own thing.

You hurt because you fear hie'll get hurt sometime, and maybe even die. And you might then blame yourself , there's got to have been something else you could have said or done to get him to understand......and it would have never worked. The fault would be his, not yours. This is what every parent has to learn, to let go and let the child, the kid to live their own life.

You obviously are very stressed out about this question because you've submitted it 3 times. Only thing you can do is let him know how you feel and then let him go do his own thing.

Do what you can to keep people from driving drunk. I lost a friend to this. Don't lose your brother. Offer rides to people who can't drive. You had every right to yell at him. He made a bad choice and you're trying to show him that you care. There are many alternatives to driving.

No you are absolutely not! What your brother did was wrong and you acted in a way that was normal, because you cared about him. However, you should talk to him about the situation again when things cool down to let him know why his decision was wrong and the consequences for his action, as well as that you care about him and his safety ;-)

He's a bloody idiot, and if your friends are at Uni, and aren't smart enough to know that drink-driving kills, then they aren't very smart, are they?