a relative died today i don't feel sad at all but i feel i should. am i weird?

Just because the relative is family doesn't mean you were particularly close, hence the lack of sadness. You are better off in being quiet rather than forcing yourself to cry for show. You will feel grief (sometimes after the initial shock) with someone you have been very close. I have lost three cousins, two uncles, one aunt and my father (whom I was not close to at all), and did not grieve. I do not consider myself a bad person, on the contrary, it would be hypocritical to have behaved otherwise (respectfully quiet, not pretending anything else).

Haha no that's not weird. I felt the same way at my grandmother's funeral. Until i saw my sister cry then I turned into a mess! Sometimes it hits u hard and fast. Sometimes it takes time for u to realize. Depends on how close u were to this person. Sorry for your lose!!

Death can have many different effects on different people. It depends on your reltationship with the individual, if you were close. Things like this will play a factor on how we all handle death in our lives. It never hurts to try to talk to close loved ones about the way you feel about a loss in your family.

Please know that there are people who can and will help you with what you are going through. You may want to consider talking with a counselor at a hotline. There are many hotlines that are 24/7 and will work with you and your situation like yours. Some even have email and/or chat if you would prefer. Hopefully, you will continue to reach out!

JP, Counselor

thank you very much. i feel the same, feel bad for the grieving relatives. not for myself. i dont think the grief will hit later as this isnt the first time i have felt no sadness after a death. thank you a lot, i thought this was so weird a feeling.glad it is not unique.good answer.

No. We all handle death in our own way. Some grieve openly, some inside or not at all. My sister in law passed last week. We were not close but I am sorry for my brother, they were married for many years. Maybe your grief will hit later.

Nope! It just means that you weren't very close to them.