Having a child before marriage becoming more common?

These days, yes it is more common for people to have a baby together before marriage.

Me and my son's mother had him without being married. And thank God for that. When she cheated on me it made it a whole lot easier to end things between us rather than going through a divorce. People with their, "it keeps you committed to your offspring" BS don't know what they're talking about. My son is 14 now and I have had him on my own with zero help from his mother for nine years now. I am 100% committed to him and I do an excellent job of being both mother and father to him. And his home is not broken. Our home is perfect.

Because these people know, why do you need a piece of paper to prove your love?

Why get the government involved into your relationship?

yes.. for us it doesnt make sense to get married, our insurance rates would go up.

You *should* get married first. That way, each person is committed to each other - and their offspring.