I don't know what to do with my relationship?

I'm so sorry about your situation. The only solution is for him to go back with you. If he's not willing to make the sacrifice of potentially not having a job then maybe you can move back home until you two raise enough money together to pay whoever you need to pay to go back to Britain. It might take two years but asking him to wait 2 instead of 8 seems a lot easier doesn't it? Plus if you're both working towards a common goal (raising the money) it will help keep you close while your relationship is long distance.

Well.the first thing is to stop beating yourself up for being 'stupid' as you put it. Love creeps up on us and when two people share the same chemical attraction, hey presto, the wheels are in motion for potential romance. Love is one of many instincts that is ruled as much by the heart as by the brain.

And the delemma you both face is now a test of that love you share. Love will always win through as long as it focuses on reality and the love is mutually strong and equal. Right now, you both need to ask yourselves, do you want to be together forever, or can you both let go and move on. It has to be a joint debate and the final answer has to be mutual to avoid heartache and anquish. If your bf has career plans, how do they take priority over the love he should have for you? There are such things as adapting to lofe and making compromises or alternative solutions. And creative writing can be done anywhere!!

Long term, you do have options, but of course all options involve cost and that alone has to stick with reality. And long term relationships can work IF the love is equal and the bond strong enough to withstand the heartache of distance. Daily contact and regular Skype type contact can ease it, especially when there is a goal in mind that you are both working to.

Malaysia is a wonderful country, albeit socially and religiously opposed to LGBT people. But discretion and respect is usually returned without judgement. I'm a gay guy with a bf living in Malaysia. We met in 2011 and have met twice yearly since. He has applied for a civil parnership/settlement visa for the uk, a process full of obstacles. the latest is a refusal based on something so stupis it makes us think there is another agenda. But we appealed and now wait. I mention this only because you either both want to be together, or you don't. If you feel you both do but cannot see how, you both need to investigate what is possible and the timescales involved. From my experience, the easy option is to walk away from it and live through the heartache. The harder option is to stick with what feels so right and face the challenges that come with it. If love is there, strong in equal measures, the challenges will test it, but they'll also make the bond stronger.

I wish you both well. Your bf should visit your country, for to love you is to also respect you, your family and your traditions and culture as much as you might respect all that makes him who he is.

You'll be alright! Just go back home & hopefully you'll find a richer man who will pay for u to go to whatever country you want :)