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why is my ex acting this way?
My ex whom I dated 23 years ago whose child I aborted 22 years ago remained good close friends. Maybe every 3 years we will hook up and have sex. In July he wanted to have sex and I had a very bad feeling about it and I kept telling him we shouldn't go there because I was having a bad feeling about it. He kept pressing the issue and I gave in anyhow. The sex was different this time its like we made love it was passionate and our emotions were into it. After that our friendship has been very strained. Every time I say I'm going out of town he will always say I'm not going anywhere etc. I went to the mayweather fight in September and prior to me going he left a voice mail on my cell phone telling me to have a nice time and be safe. He has never left a voice mail on my cell. I even got a tattoo of his name on my back. All we do is fight now. What is going on with us. We've had sex in the past and we would be fine afterwards but this time it strained our relationship. What is going on here. I even told him I was fading to black because it was beginning to take a emotional/mental strain on me. Please explain what the heck is going on here.
4 Answers
- Cyber AristotleLv 77 years ago
Your relationship has strained, and youre fighting because both of you are in denial. You still have feelings for each other after all these years. Plus there might still be some resentment about the abortion, if you havent been open and honest to each other, so that you could both forgive and recincile properly.
Somehow, you've convinced yourselves that sex alone will give you fulfilment. The last sex was a turning point which moved your relationship from casual sex partners to something more meaningful. The two of you should have used the opportunity to discuss the new direction of your relationship, but you chose not to.
If you're both currently in stable long term relationships, then it would be a good idea to stop the casual sex arrangement. If however you're both available, then it is best to talk about moving your relationship forward. Please have an open and honest conversation with him, so you can know his true feelings for you.
I hope this help
Good luck!
- Anonymous7 years ago
It sounds like something in you might have changed which has resulted in this. The bad feeling you had about having sex with him turned out to be a self-fulfilling prophecy. This is a question that only deep self-reflection will be able to answer. And don’t ignore scary thoughts like the possibility that you no longer want to be in that relationship. Be honest with yourself and you will figure it out.
- Anonymous7 years ago
Sex with ex's is always a bad idea. Cut off that part of your relationship.
