My parents think I'm a Lesbian????

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I'm 16 years old and I have a sneaking suspicion that my parents think I am a lesbian. I have not had a boyfriend, I would like one, but they generally aren't attracted to me. It doesn't bother me much, I am a nerd, I am focused on my education. I am currently questioning my sexuality, right now I am sure of nothing because I haven't experimented yet. It is upsetting to me because my parents seem to already think I am a lesbian...which concerns me. They have never outright asked me, but I can tell the way they do things. Sometimes they will bring up homosexuality and say bad things about it and how it is gross (their opinion) and they always bring it up around me. Another thing they do is sometimes when we are alone they will ask me about school and if I am interested in anyone. It makes me feel paranoid because I feel like I am wearing a sign around my neck that just says YES I AM INTO GIRLS. I also hate it because I am not ready to tell my parents anything. I am still trying to find out who I am and I don't want them knowing anything until I am absolutely sure. Plus, I am waiting until my grandmother dies. If she knew, she would never speak to me again and I can't handle losing her. So basically, my plan is to tell them within the next 10 to 15 years if I end up being with a girl. It really stresses me out, can anyone tell me what I should do? I am really stuck. I feel like they are pressuring me into a relationship just to prove that I am straight. How can I stop this?

Dana · Accepted Answer

Next time they bring up if you are seeing anyone, tell them there is a boy you like, but you think your studying is too important to sacrifice for a relationship. Then once you have moved out and worked out your sexuality, you can come out to them if you choose.

choko_canyon · Answer

Tell them you're straight, but are more concerned with studying than boys right now. Then, in 10 to 15 years, when you're long gone, tell them whatever the truth is at that point.

Anonymous · Answer

Wow exactly the same situation as you except I'm 17 haha, and had a girlfriend I just pretend to be seriously busy when any member of family brings up awkward topics.

? · Answer

here is what u do, tell them u are un-sure of ur sexuatly or u can liy and stay ur 100% into guys. or you can get a guy who is a friend and say that he is ur bf (make sure its ok with him first)

i dont know u so i wont make a 100% assumption - think of being straight (one end), bi (middle) and gay(other end) as a scale. so u can be bi but more on the girl side. (not saying u are just an example). so i think u are more bi than u r straight (closes to the straight side).

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BeautifulChica · Answer

My mom thought (and maybe still thinks, idk) that I was lesbian. I honestly had to have a talk with her about my sexuality... and I'm 20. When people don't understand, they try to. Right now your parents don't understand who you are or what you want. It's your place to set your boundaries and to make them known. They're human, too, just gotta remind them.

romey bear · Answer

Tell them you reserve the right to love and sex whoever you choose and the decision is yours alone they have no choice in the matter. Tell them at this point in your life you are not inclined to take any lover. When you are ready you will decide when and with whoever you choose.

Anonymous · Answer

Get a guy friend
Make out with hime infront of your parents

Or how about not giving a **** about what sexuality theh think you have becuase they should live you no matter what.

The choice is yours, your the chosen ine harry.

Anonymous · Answer

Tell them the truth.

? · Answer

i think your grandma deserves the truth when she is alive so she can rest peacefully

? · Answer

tell them what you are. it cant hurt to tell the truth. they will adjust eventually.

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