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My boyfriend have not responded to my text message?

When we first started dating (courtship) he told he wasn't much of a texter and his way of communication was face to face or a phone call. As the relationship progress I initiated most of the contact contact and being that I'm a texter, I proceed with what I was comfortable with. However, I notice he rarely call or text. As the relationship progress (5 months) in I realize that it's been one months since we spoke on the phone or seen each other and every text entry was initiated by me. So I took a step back and not make any contact until he does. His contacts came in every four days etc. Then one day he text and I text back and here we are 3 wks later, and still no contact. I know most girls would have blew up his phone within those 3wks, but I have an ego too. I also have a rule where I don't text until someone respond to my previous text and that rule applies to everyone.

I feel like this man slap me in my face. If you're not happy with me verbally express it to me. Don't go out like a coward. We're both adults. What really hurt is that I saw a future with this man. I wanted to progress, but instead I wasted 8 months on him. Now I have to start all over again, and I already hate dating. Why do guys do this to us? I feel like any guy who have the nerve to end things that way should have his bad relationship karma follow him to his next relationship.

My question is, if someone did that to you and after 2 months they contact you, would you respond or ignore?

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  • Anonymous
    7 years ago
    Favorite Answer

    Well I think if your boyfriend is not taking the effort to acknowledge you or appreciate the fact that you're trying hes simply not good enough for you. Sure, girls do have a tendency to go crazy if a guy doesnt reply but two months is a long time, especially if you're in a relationship. Maybe one last time you should try initiating a call and letting him know how you feel and meet up with him sometime. If he thinks of this as clingy or annoying behaviour, he's probably an independent person who isn't used to the company. Honestly though, even though you don't want to initiate anything maybe give it a last try? If it doesn't turn out great, you know what that means?

    It is sad that you saw a future with him but do you really want to spend your future with someone who barely takes the time to be in contact with you?

    If I was in your position and he called me after two months, I would speak my mind to him and let him know how I was irritated by the lack of contact.

    Good Luck :)

  • ?
    Lv 4
    7 years ago

    I would ignore. This dude is losing interest in you or has already lost it. Tell him all he did wrong then depending on what he says, move on or try to find a solution to the lack of communication. But seriously, in life relationships come and go. Can't dwell over people who lose interest in you. Same recently happened to me and I lost interest in them when they did that too. Not a real loss if you step back and think about it.

  • ?
    Lv 7
    7 years ago

    It was rude of you to continue to text him after knowing full well that he does not like texting and wants to talk to people face to face or on the phone. You've showed him that you could care less what he thinks.

    Why are you stunned that you're initiating texts? He already told you that he doesn't text!! How much clearer can he be?

    You know, some people realize that texting is very impersonal. Also, some people don't have a data plan or a very large one. You need to learn to RESPECT others and the way they choose to communicate. If you want to hide behind screens, fine....but most of the world doesn't work that way. You have to learn to talk in person or on a phone.

    This guy hasn't done anything to you. It sounds like you aren't dating at all. If you were, you would be going out, talking in person, hanging out. But you don't mention any of this. You only talk about texting and him not texting....which, again, he already told you he doesn't do that.

    YOU need to act like an adult. Next time you date someone, LISTEN to them. If you don't like the fact that they don't text and it's a dealbreaker for you since you won't change...then don't date them!

    It doesn't sound like you were dating much. He didn't really end it...it simply fizzled out to where neither of you were talking.

    I suggest you listen, bend your rules, respect others, and get off your high horse. If you're going to claim to be an adult, act like it and mature up.

  • Anonymous
    7 years ago

    Sounds like he wants you when it's convenient for him. Find someone that wants to spend time with you. Good luck to you.

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  • Anonymous
    7 years ago

    I would have left this relationship behind.

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