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She brought another guy on our date?
So, I suppose this is going to be a bit more of a rant than a question. But, I would still like answers on how you think I handled the situation, and where to go from here.
Last night, this girl I really liked invited me to go see "Fault in Our Stars" with her (which is an effing romantic movie in the first place). This was great news, because I had not seen her in over a week, despite all my efforts to hangout, she would always say she was busy with work or something. We both liked each other, and I was under the impression that we would start dating regularly, (up to this point it had mostly been hanging out casually. Though I did buy her a nice dinner once, and went for a midnight stroll around a well known romantic lake, and shared an ice cream, -which felt quite a lot like a date- That sounds like a real date right?)
Anyway, back to the movie, I get there and would not be too surprised if she brought some friends a long, which is fine. But instead I find myself sitting next to her, and some guy. First I brush it off thinking this guy is probably just her friend. But, then he starts putting HIS ARM AROUND HER! Again, I brush it off, thinking he is just joking or being playful. But, the whole time, she is giving him most of her attention, and talking with him.
depsite my hard attempts to snap her attention back to me with jokes and conversation starters. But, she mostly replies with one word answers and goes back to talking with him. At this point I'm starting to get a little pissed, and feeling like a strange 3rd wheel. I debate in my mind leaving, but decide to stick it out a little longer. As the movie starts and is maybe 10 minutes in, the guy has the balls to ask me, "Hey, do you mind if we watch this by ourselves?"
Like seriously WTF!?! I was in such shock, that I didn't even have time to think of a clever response, like, "I was about to ask you the same thing bud." Or something along those lines. Instead, I responded like a beta pussy. I just was like "Ummmmmm, sure I guess. I guess I'll just go sit with my friends." As I left to go sit with my friends a few rows up, she gave me a weird look, like she wasn't sure what he was doing. So, I sit there, with my face red, from emberressment and anger.
I finally decide to just leave. I go back to my apartment, and kill hookers on grand theft auto, and watch funny stuff on netflix to cheer myself up. I texted her, saying "you made me feel like a real a$$ tonight. When the movie is over, my friends come over to consul me, and tell me what a ***** she is etc... At about 2am I get a text from her saying, "I'm so so sorry, I didn't know he was gonna act like that etc... I decide to keep some dignity and not respond till tomorrow.
The next day. I respond something along the lines of, "that was effed up what you did, I thought we liked each other etc... She responds with, I thought we were just being friendly." I respectfully, remind her about the nice date we went on, and one of my first questions to her was "Are you single?" she said, "yes". I thought up this point I had made my intentions clear enough without overdoing it and scaring her off. Apperently not. She said, she enjoyed our date, but didn't know
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- 7 years agoFavorite Answer
She doesn't like you and I am so sorry you had to go through this. DO NOT pursue her any longer! Do not text her! and do not wait for her to text you back because she most likely won't and if she does it will be out of pity!! if she texts you something along the lines of "i'm so sorry about what happened let me make it up to you or whatever..." you can handle it two different ways. 1) not response at all! or 2) straight up tell her that she humiliated you and that you're upset with her. And also please try and forget about her, this whole thing seems fishy as if she brought him along on purpose. Just forget her, if you continue to think about her and become fixated on this whole situation it will just eat at you and hurt you more. She mistreated you and that was wrong of her.
- 7 years ago
Continuation of my question.
Update 6: She didn't know I felt that way because I never let her know vocally. Well I didn't think I had to because I bought her dinner, and a romantic walk. I ask if she was ever romantically interested in me. She says, "I'm not looking for a relationship right now etc..." Anyway, then I start asking about the other guy, and what she thinks of him. She gives me some BS that they're just "friends" and he's not her BF. I said, "It looked like you were fine with him acting like you boyfriend last night. she says "IDK" like what does that even mean? I finally decide that she is not worth the effort. My last text to her was "How do you stay warm with so much ice in your veins?"
So, How do you guys think I handled it? What's your opinion on the situation as a whole? Was what she did totally messed up? What did you think of my final text? Where do I go from here, do I just leave it? Or do I forgive her, and try to make things work?
- KMll7Lv 47 years ago
If guess they are dating. Find out what her relationship status is (without being obvous). Like "that was a good movie. Your friend seemed nice or friendly or smart. But I've never seen him around before. Does he go to our school?" Just try to get details about him.
- 7 years ago
Man I think she did this on purpose and brought the other guy to show that she likes him and then he told you that because she couldn't tell you that she didn't like you like that sorry man but I would move on and forget her.
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- 7 years ago
Yes it sounds like a date to me. If the guy she brought along is a very close friend probably she is considering and would like to know from a guys perspective if you are for real or not or what he thinks about you. SO do not fret just continue asking her out.
- Anonymous7 years ago
Thats bad.really bad mate!
It doesnt look like she wants you
Maybe you should go up to her and ask her strait out
- Anonymous7 years ago
she brought a guy to your second date? she is not interested and is sending you the message that you are just friends. sorry, mate!
- 7 years ago
I just.................. I definitely would have left and never speak to her again. How rude.