Feeling depressed?! HELP ME!!?

Don't worry about them; you will make more friends in time. I know how you feel, as I was going through a similar situation last year... When I moved schools, my two best friends made new friends, and they moved on pretty quickly. I felt the same way as you do right now. I thought I'd never make new friends, since I'm not the best at socialising, either, but I was wrong, because I DID make new friends, and I AM getting better at socialising. And I'm sure you don't suck at EVERYTHING. I'm sure there's something that you're actually really good at (for me, it's photography), and if not, then perhaps you need to focus more on yourself, and find out what that really is. And I'll bet there's some subjects at school that you're brilliant at! Don't worry too much about it, because it WILL get better, I promise.

"You are going to live a good and long life filled with great and terrible moments that you cannot even imagine yet!" - John Green

Don't worry about them; you will make more friends in time. I know how you feel, as I was going through a similar situation last year... When I moved schools, my two best friends made new friends, and they moved on pretty quickly. I felt the same way as you do right now. I thought I'd never make new friends, since I'm not the best at socialising, either, but I was wrong, because I DID make new friends, and I AM getting better at socialising. And I'm sure you don't suck at EVERYTHING. I'm sure there's something that you're actually really good at (for me, it's photography), and if not, then perhaps you need to focus more on yourself, and find out what that really is. And I'll bet there's some subjects at school that you're brilliant at! Don't worry too much about it, because it WILL get better, I promise.

"You are going to live a good and long life filled with great and terrible moments that you cannot even imagine yet!" - John Green

Sadly we all at one point go through this, its all about change. Some sail through and others have it tough.

As well as the changes on the outside you also have hormonal changes which are also a bummer. But hold on kid, because changes are constant so this pattern will also change.

You can of course use the magic key..........which is YOU, if everyday you wake up and have a positive thought, just one like for instance, "today is going to be a good day" feel it and believe it, don't doubt it. In fact get excited about it, because this is the magic key to success, have the thought, feel the emotion and get excited about the outcome. You have the power to make this happen, try this for 5 days, keep a diary write in it every night and look back to see if what changes took place. I bet you any money that you will have a great week. This will be proof to you that you can be the master and not a victim, I kid you not. I wish I knew this when I was only 15, now I am a grandmother and have learned the hard way. But if you do this method and stay with the positive/happy thought you have the potential to change yourself and give your life the things it needs most and you wont have to work hard to achieve it, all done by thought. Simple. xx

Okay, let me be as frank and to the point as the question. People on here are gonna give you all kinds of advice and attention and try to comb your ego a bit to make you feel better or stop you from topping yourself. When it comes down to it realise this:

1) Everyone is **** at socialising. It's all made up. Even the most confident speaker in the world is just saying what people want to hear. If they didn't people wouldn't like listening to them. And - no matter how much they will say otherwise, people often listen to said people with a smile and in their head are thinking ' you are such a c***'

2) People who are worth anything will talk to you and hang out with you because they want to and they enjoy your company - this is a two way street. Act like an a*** and people won't want to see you, crack a joke and don't take yourself too seriously - come up with an interesting convo etc and people will be like ' this person's okay ya know :-)

3) Depression is a psychological bully - and worst of all it's bullying yourself. Sometimes you just have to give that big old ogre a bit of a BACK OFF! and the best way I have found to do that is do something completely random. Last time I felt low I did something daft - I flicked Ice cream off a spoon at targets - OUTSIDE! (I know, mad right?) But you know what it really entertained me and I had a chuckle at it. Best part was my sis came home and caught me (shes younger than me - 23) and she joined in too. - surround yourself with people who actually mean something to you and have fun. Don't let others get you down and tell that mind bully to **** *** :-)

I won't go into scientific detail like these other answers because knowing that your feelings are based on hormones doesn't really help whatsoever. All i can say is that life is pretty messed up. It might be really bad for you right now but it won't stay like this. It's going to get better, but only if you actually try in life. If you just lay around all day being depressed it's not gonna help. You should try to pay attention in school and try to make some new friends because clearly those friends aren't good for you if they all just lose contact with you like that.

Hey, let me give you some real, true advice and I hope that you take heed because I've been there and done that. I am a 37 yr. old female and when I was 14 I became depressed. I was boo-hooing because I didn't have any friends, felt like no one liked me, I had no personality for anyone to like me, on and on and on. But as I got older I realized the friends I thought were my friends we're really not. So I stopped using the 'Friend' word lightly. Through time I hope that you will realize what a true friend is. Even to this day I don't consider myself as having friends, other than my husband 'he is my true friend'. I say now I have associates. Things will get better trust me. It may not seem good right now but things will get better. Spend time finding yourself, what are you good at, what do you love to do. Stop looking on the outside for others to make you feel good about yourself but it's a good time to start looking within. Trust me cause people are funny they will lift you up one day and the next be tearing you down. So you have to look inside and find your inner beauty, so no matter what goes on on the outside you have that firm foundation of knowing who you truly are. Feelings change, remember that, sometimes you have to encourage yourself, find what you love to do, you may meet friends that way, at least you will have something in common with them. I'm a mental health advocate, try to find a support group for teens who are feeling depressed. It always helps to talk to someone. Don't hold this in. And lastly, some people (friends) are only in your life for a season and when that season is up it is time for you to move on.

There are billions of people in the world and someone out there needs a friend, just like you. Always keep your beautiful smile on your face. Show everyone what they're missing and remember that you're special and you have a purpose on this Earth. You might not be a Christian but I am. I know that God is always there for you. And if you're thinking, why does he let anything bad happen to me? It's because he loves you and he has a purpose for you. As I said before, keep that beautiful smile on your face.

What helped me out of depression when I was your age was to listen closely to your own thoughts. When you hear an untruth...like you aren't good at anything you try....this can't be true because of the word 'everything'..nothing is all inclusive, so this is a lie. Replace this with I am good at some things... Be yourself and don't worry if others like you or not..some will, others wont, but this is not your burden to carry..it is theirs. Be yourself, don't try to impress anyone...then the ppl who do finally notice you will be attracted to the real you, not some persona you put on like a mask...you can't kiip the act up..so just BE YOU. ...when you focus on what is 'right' in your life this will attract more 'right' to you. There is magic in positive thoughts.

The best advice I can give you is to do you first clearly they aren't friends because they wouldn't act that way if they where even if they say they are whose got time for DAT **** anyway go to the pep rallies go to the dances at school enjoy it while your their its not always going to be this easy for you and if you think its hard now wait until your in the real world and its only a year or two away now if you need to talk hit me up been Thur some of the same **** your groin thur

Advice is subjective to the individual's experience, and has little baring on your own, because we're all biased toward ourselves. What you need to do is figure out what YOU would do about your situation. It's the most difficult thing, but it is also the most rewarding. I apologize, but life has no cheat sheet. All we can do is what we believe is right in the moment and hope we make the best decision. Always try to be the best person you know how to be. You will stumble, you will have regrets, and you will fall flat on your face. But how do we learn not to fail? By failing. By being miserable we learn how to dig ourselves out of it. Everyone has a rough time growing up, and many will tell you their stories, but the thing nobody thinks to tell you is to make sure that you are living YOUR life, and not somebody else's. It is good to hear other people's perspective on your situation, but don't let them decide what to do for you. Get advice to make an educated guess, so to speak. Go forward and be the best person you can possibly be. You are going to fail most the time. You are going to succeed sometimes, and they are going to feel great. Then you'll learn how to fail less, and become that great person you've been trying to be. This is what happens to everyone while growing up.

Always be humble, but don't let anyone force you to eat crow. Nobody should expect a 16 year old to know what they're doing in almost anything, but they will pressure you to do good. You have to separate yourself from the criticism and learn to take it with a grain of salt (meaning you should view each criticism as a wonderful opportunity to better yourself, and add your own spice - or positivity - to it to make it easier to learn from). Like I said, there's no cheat sheet for life. You have to fail a lot sometimes. We all do. We always will. That's just how life is. We all hang on for the love and support of those around us, and eventually for the affection of another. These are things that make it worth it in the end. If you do as I suggested and be the best person you know to be then you will find ways to make good friends and KEEP them, and they will love you, and you will love them for it. Always be positive, always work hard, and most of all always learn from your failures. You seem very self-aware, so I have a huge vote of confidence for you. You will be a great person one day if you keep trying. Please keep trying. The world needs great people.

Side note, to compare this to myself: Whenever I feel I'm walking into a hopeless situation where I'll probably embarrass myself I imagine it cenimatically. The world is crumbling around me, all hope is lost, but I'm still standing and ready to face my demise. It's hyperbole, of course, but do you know what happens when I imagine myself as the comic book hero, or the matyr for my my own life? I do awesome things, and amaze myself. Look to your favorite fictional heroes and imagine how they felt in those most hopeless situations where there was no choice. It's hyperbole and metaphor about life, and the challenges we face in it. Take comfort in knowing you're not the only one that feels that way, and believe that you have the power to make it right. I often feel the same way you're describing right now, so that is why I'm taking so much care in answering. haha