is it a single mothers responsiblity to pay for daughters wedding when her and her husband to be make way more money than the mother does?

Okay...back in the 'olden days' and even today, the very traditional way is for the bride's parents to pay for their daughters FIRST wedding...however, it is becoming more and more the new tradition for couples to pay for their own weddings as they have realized that 'Dem Dat Pays, gets the Say'....and today, the couple want nearly all the control over the wedding. When parents pay for the wedding, then the parents get to pull the strings after all, it's THEIR money and THEIR party, the young couple are then merely the guests of honor and NOT the hosts......

Up to you if you can help financially and how much you can help....it's NOT a matter of 'responsibility' but a matter of who is willing...the bride's family have never ever been obligated to pay for anything...the CUSTOM started long ago when brides were literally the property of their father's and went from their father's home to their husband's home...many times Daddy even picked the husband (arranged marriage) and there was a dowry or bride price involved.

So no, not your 'responsibility'...offer what you can afford without beggaring yourself and if it's not enough, then the couple will have to deal or add their own contribution.

Certainly not. My parents are divorced, my mum is single (and will never remarry) and only works part time - my partner and I earn a lot more than she does. I wouldn't dream of ever asking her for money for anything. She has, however, offered what she can afford towards our wedding and I was so incredibly touched that she would do this knowing the tough financial position she is in.

If you are the mother, I recommend offering only what you can afford. If this is nothing, then that's how it is. You will be there for your daughter in other ways, such as being a shoulder to cry on and helping her make some of those tough decisions. If you are the daughter, I recommend not asking your mother for a cent. If you cannot afford to pay for your wedding yourselves, you need to either push the date back so you have more time to save or lessen your expectations.

Wedding are really expensive today.

There are still family that pay all or some of the wedding.

No child should except their pay.

If the child makes more than the parent, then they should not even ask.

No it's not the parents responsibility to pay.

If an parent want to give money toward their wedding that up to the parents. If an parent want to pay something for the wedding, it's up to the parents, like paying for the dress.

No.

In the modern era most couples pay for their own wedding. If mom (or anyone else) offers to contribute financially it's fine for them to accept but should never be an expectation.

Different than 50+ years ago couples now even out of high school make much more money and generally are marrying older when they are more established in life.

My husband and I paid for our own wedding (as we should have), I couldn't justify having my mom pay my way when I make a lot more than her.

Your wedding + your party = your bill.

It doesn't matter whether you are single or not or if the "kids" make more money than you do; this issue is whether or not you want to and are able to contribute to the wedding.

Sit down with these folks and have an open and honest discussion. If you are broke, end of story. If you have a certain amount of money you would like to contribute, offer that.

As others have pointed out, this couple needs to decide what type of wedding they want and how they can pay for it (with our without your contribution). If you explain your situation, they should be able to deal with that reality and plan accordingly.

If you have raise a spoiled brat who is demanding you pay for a certain style of event with no regard for your financial situation, I wish you luck.

Those traditions of brides parents pay for this and grooms parents pay for that are no longer valid.

I think it'd be a nice gesture if you gave her a set amount of $$$ as your gift towards the wedding but in no way are you required to do so or are you required to pay for the entire thing.

My parents are contributing a small amount, my groom single mother contributing a small amount and we are paying the rest.

We didn't expect money from parents at all they offered and they both offered a set amount each.

We appreciate their help.

It's 2014. If the couple can't, or isn't willing to pay for ALL of their own wedding, then they have no business getting married.

Sure, parents can offer to contribute, but they must be 100% willing to contribute entirely on their own, with absolutely zero attempts at persuasion from the couple.

My parents always made it very clear that they would contribute the same amount to each child when they got married, and not a penny more, and they stuck to it. My husband and I thanked them graciously and paid for the rest entirely on our own.

Parents are never responsible for paying for their children's weddings ... regardless of marital status or personal wealth.

The people who've decided to get married are the only two people responsible for paying for the wedding. Any money from parents/family is a voluntary gift, not an obligation.

If your adult child asks you for money for a wedding, either give whatever you wish or say, "Sorry, can't do it." If they don't like it, tough. You raised a brat.

It is not the parent's responsibility to pay for her daughter's wedding no matter if she's married or not, if she has tons of money or not. If you would help out with some aspect of the wedding, that would be a lovely gesture on your part, but it is not your RESPONSIBILITY to do so, no.

I let my mum pay for my dress, the rest we paid for ourselves.

She should know you can't afford much and be realistic.

If she is demanding you pay for her wedding, just say ok, here's the budget, and she can contribute the rest.

So you should be up for couple hundred if they got married at register.

If she wants over the top expensive wedding, then that's not your fault, and she should pay herself.

You could also offer to bake their cake.

Maybe even sew her veil, hold her hens night at your place, be in charge of doing hair and make up.

There's plenty you can offer, just state clearly nothing financially.

She should respect you enough to understand your situation.

Spending anything more then a few thousand is crazy, divorce rates are so high, a lot of people just don't spend what they used to, they know marriage is hard work, and the odds are against the,.

Just offer what you can. Not just money either.