Need help with marriage Rebuilding.?

Firstly, figure out what made you fall in love with her in the first place. Once you do that, you've got a solid foundation. Secondly, and I know this is hard, make her happiness your first priority. If she's as equally invested in the relationship and does the same, you'll be golden. It can be pretty simple things too. Like helping the kids with there homework, making sure she has some alone time. For instance pore her a hot bath and don't let the kids bug her. While you're discussing how the day was, lay on the couch and give her feet a rub. Make a list of things around the house you know dam well you can do. then do them without having to be reminded. Better yet teach the kids how to do some of them, to ease the work load on both of you. Many people think its the grand gestures that make a marriage work, when it's the little day to day considerations that keep the machine moving.

There is nothing tit-for-tat in a marriage. It's all in 100%. When one partner in a marriage isn't co-operating, the other partner pulls 150%. Sometimes the rough patches last too long and the hard working partner absolutely knows it's not "fair". But the thing is, when the tables turn, and if you chose well in the first place they do, then the other partner pulls the 150% until it works right again. And the first partner who struggled so hard before.. doesn't even notice its happening. People who don't do that have short marriages and quit when the going gets tough. As long as you are weighing who is right and who is wrong and how come you aren't getting your share... you aren't pulling your weight. It sounds like you are competing with each other. Extremely common early in some marriages. Get over that.

Jesus.....she gave you the classic ILYBINILWY. You need to act fast if you want to save your marriage.

When a woman tells a man ILYBINILWY (I Love You But I'm Not In Love With You) that means 9 times out of 10 there is a guy she is in love with that has entered the picture. ILYBINILWY is female code for some combination of "I'm leaving you for him", "I'm thinking about having sex with him", "I'm having sex with him but I want to live with you still is that ok?" and "I think I might be pregnant and don't know whose baby it is.”   A woman can have minimal “in love” feelings the husband she is pair bonded to and just coast along for YEARS with no apparent cause for concern. I know of marriages where the wife clearly routinely craps all over her Beta husband and has done so for years and years but the marriage continues on unabated anyway. It is of course quite easy to be faithful if no one else wants to have sex with you.

Don't kiss her butt at this point. More chores will not help. More presents will not help. You'll have far greater success lifting weights, dressing better and essentially becoming more sexy in the eyes of other women. She's looking for excuses to dump you bro. You win her back by being more manly not womanly ( chores, nurturing care, etc)

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you are suffering a danger! Find out the reason why your family relationship was broken, which is the most important. Find the reason about yourself firstly, and then analyse the other family members. Come on, everything will be OK now, don't be so upset and depress yourself. You are the most important one in your family.