Yahoo Answers is shutting down on May 4th, 2021 (Eastern Time) and beginning April 20th, 2021 (Eastern Time) the Yahoo Answers website will be in read-only mode. There will be no changes to other Yahoo properties or services, or your Yahoo account. You can find more information about the Yahoo Answers shutdown and how to download your data on this help page.

Should I tell my mum I'm asexual?

I'm a seventeen-year-old girl and I was in a relationship for a year when I was sixteen with a boy (which in the UK is the age of legal consent and also the age most of my friends lost their virginity), and I've been dating my current boyfriend the same age as me for five months now. I'm still a virgin. I've always felt like I could talk to and tell my mum anything but the past year or two she's been having talks with me about sex and safe sex and assault and I really appreciate that she's talking about this with me but it's still a bit awkward because she's my mother and it's also pretty exhausting because I keep reassuring her that I'm safe and I don't do anything "naughty" when I'm in my bedroom with my boyfriend when the door is shut.. And I feel like it could keep on like this. I'm quite sure I'm asexual, and I am aware asexuals can still have sex and get aroused and I don't really want to die a virgin, I've talked to my boyfriend about it and he's being really supportive but I kind of want to tell my mum, too. I mean, it felt good to come out to someone I was close to. And it would get my mum off my back a bit, but I feel like because I'm so young and haven't tried sex yet that it's not definite that I am asexual and that it could be "a phase", or I could be confused. Like, maybe I'm actually just not ready. And also, I wouldn't know how to tell my mum about my sexuality because it just seems a bit awkward. Should I bother saying anything to her?

-Thanks for your help

2 Answers

Relevance
  • 6 years ago
    Favorite Answer

    well honestly you do not have to if you do not want to, it is really nothing big like lesbian where people might react strongly. But do it if you really believe it to be the best choice. Try to hint at it first just to see her reaction and such. always good to try that before. but there is no secret tactic just sit down with her and tell her, with the highest likelihood she will understand. Good luck on your mission.

  • Biff
    Lv 7
    6 years ago

    if you were asexual, you wouldn;t have a BF beeause you wouldn;t be interested in either gender and asexuals don;t get aroused - that's the complete opposite of an asexual

Still have questions? Get your answers by asking now.