Why don't people understand how painful adoption is for the mother?

Because most of the people who give up their child for adoption are girls in their late teens and early twenties and people who can't financially take care of their child.

You should have planned ahead. You want your child to have the best possible life and that means that in order to have that, you must have financial stability, a substantial job, and two involved parents that support each other and put the child first. Let's be real here: you need to have a degree if you want a substantial career.

I have little to no sympathy for people who don't plan ahead. So many teens just have sex for the hell of it and don't plan or consider the consequences. You did have a choice. Could've made smarter decisions. I'm sorry you're having a bad day, but grow up. You don't just give up a child because you're "scared".

I don't even know if you'd properly care for your child judging from this immature, hyperbolic post. A human life is not something to play around with.

Even I know this and I'm 14 years old.

I can totally understand how it would be hard and upsetting for the biological mother to give up their child. I wouldn't ever want to do that, I want to keep my future children. I'd also feel bad taking a baby away from their real mother which is one of the reasons why I want to have my own children instead of adopt. I've seen plenty of shows where the real mother had to give up their baby and they were all very upset and some ended up keeping them as they changed their mind once they saw their baby. It would be hard to say goodbye to them.

I'm sorry that you got raped. That just makes your choice even harder. I guess it's a good thing that your baby was adopted by someone related to you though because at least you can see your child then unless your sister lives far away from you, but if she doesn't, if you ask to see your child, she should let you.

Just by reading what you wrote, I can tell you are severely depressed by that alone. I can't understand because I'm not in your situation, but I do imagine what that must feel like.

There must be a reason why you adopted him out. If you couldn't take care of him, he is in now in good hands. Just think about that and that should make you feel better. You probably made a wise decision letting someone else take care of him.

If your sister adopted him, don't you get to see him? Try becoming a major part of his life.

EDIT: Because the birth was painful it made you lose reality? What do you mean?

Is the adoption finalized? Is there any way you could still get back custody?

I'm sorry that happened to you, you might have had post-partum depression. People don't understand post-partum depression (they don't understand it can cause severe depression, uncontrollable crying, etc) and people don't understand that putting a child up for adoption can be one of the worst things a woman can ever experience.

Well, you being irrisponsible chose to have a baby and not think about the consequences! You should feel very grateful that your sister and her husband are taking the baby in. I guess you know now, that if you are not prepared to have a baby, then to wrap the willy, huh? How old are you? You sound as if you still live with your parents. I know it's hard but you have to suck it up because YOU were the one who chose to be irrisponsible, especially if you're still in high school, shame on you!

I think you had postpartum depression. It's very common. If you don't mind me asking you, were you raped? Or how was the pregnancy forced on you? I'm happy you are in university and trying to get a good job for your son. For the first 3ish years of his life, I would see him very often, and when you are finally able to support yourself and him, get guardianship/custody of him? I hope you have success and good luck!

don't worry, life might not exist, you could be in the matrix

Why give him up then?