A question for the women.?

I would have left her a long long long long time ago

stop letting her use you

It doesn't matter what her motives are (undecided, confused, just playing you for the power this game gives her)

what matters is YOU DON'T LET HER manipulate you like that

have some decency

Stop seeing her

avoid her, don't return her calls

GIVE HER AN ULTIMATUM

"either leave the new guy and come back to me or LEAVE ME ALONE"

respect yourself

be strong

don't cave

she knows she can drag you along

that's why she is doing it

show her you can move on

and forget her

Just Find a new woman

and ignore her

Let her go. If she can't be committed to only you, it's not worth it. It is such a horribly painful thing to let someone you love go, but if the person you love makes you feel less than you are, it's not right. If she loved you, she would know you are worth giving up her "side boyfriend". Don't set flames to yourself to keep others warm. You deserve better than to be confused. Don't let a girl destroy you.

from personal experience it's cause I wanted to be with someone else, get over him. But I couldn't and we are now together, still lol. Sometimes rocky things happen to pull people together..

I think you should give her an ultimatum. Allow her to leave the guy and make her think you are taking her back. Take her to a picnic out of town and leave her confused a*s*s* there.

because she wants her cake and eat it to