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i feel so helpless?
My friend Leah lost her bf, that she's known for 30 years, a week ago to a car accident. She feels so good alone and has shut the world out. She has withdrawn into a severe state of depression. It breaks my heart knowing she's hurting so immensely. We work together so me and a mutual friend Erica got her some beautiful flowers. We also got her a sweet touching sympathy card and had everyone at work sign it. It's just not enough. I wish Leah would let me be there for her in her time of need like she's been there for me and Erica as well as just about all our coworkers. I feel so helpless and useless because there is nothing I can do. How can I convince her that she is still loved, that there are still people that care about her? I just don't know what to do and its killing me inside.
3 Answers
- 6 years ago
Well hun, the best thing you can do is to comfort her and be there to support and listen to her. You can't do anything more than that unfortunately.
Leah would only feel a lot better if (unrealistically) her boyfriend happened to come back to life again. Besides that, there is technically nothing else (in her eyes) that will get her back on her feet again.
However, you can always call her up to go exercising, go out to see new people and new places, or go to her house and spend a couple of nights there.
Let her know that no matter what situation happens in her life, it will still go on. Imprisoning herself inside her house all the time will only add to her stress and depression. Talking to new people will give her a greater chance to move on from the past.
It's not easy to encourage a friend to do so, but a true friend will do anything to help that person back on their feet.
- ?Lv 76 years ago
Grieving takes time, especially after a sudden passing like a car accident. The shock of losing someone so suddenly, rather than a long illness, takes more time from which to recover.
You and Erica will just have to be patient but ensure on, almost a daily basis, that your thoughts are with her and you both wish to support and comfort her. Tell her that you both are suffering as much as she and would also like to bear the grief. Try taking her for a walk even if it is only for 15 minutes. Wishing you success.
- Anonymous6 years ago
Get her professional help, so she can get things off her chest, or have her open up to you.
