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i need a woman's opinion on something. Is my female best friend giving me mixed signals or am I reading too much into it?

I met my best friend Erica about 6 or 7 months ago. We connected instantly, within a week it was like we've known each other our whole lives, within two weeks she became my best friend, and just after Christmas we were like family. I've had feelings for her pretty much since we met. She always smiles when she sees me.. She hugs me hello and goodbye everyday and sometimes just because. She says I love you everyday, sometimes more than once. I gave her a cute lil pink teddy bear, pink is her favorite color, and a cute and sweet card for valentines day today, she gave me a huge hug, said I love you so much, and said you're the best. I even asked her to be my valentine today and she said yes, even though she has a boyfriend. She said her bf doesn't treat her as well as she wants him to and that I would treat her like a goddess, she doesn't know I heard that. I inadvertently overheard her telling a friend. I've tried to make her mine repeatedly and even though didn't say yes, she never said no either. I asked her, a few months back, if she wasn't with her bf would I have a chance, all she said was she doesn't think about stuff like that. I'm so confused. I know she loves me, and of course I love her with all my heart and soul. She's the most amazing woman I've ever met. So what, in your opinion, is her feelings for me. Am I basically a brother, a backup plan, or is she just unable to admit how she feels?

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  • Lisa
    Lv 7
    6 years ago

    It sounds like she does like you...there's physical contact, there's emotional responses, all the signs of someone liking you...but somehow the boyfriend is a big impediment. Some people are just loyal and have a hard time leaving someone even if they know the person is wrong for them. Particularly if they've been together a long time, that person can start to feel like a family member, and it's tremendously difficult to leave them. You have two choices 1) Move on 2) Wait. My advice is to NEVER EVER wait for someone. There is no guarantee that this person will be with you, even should the final break occur, and you might be waiting forever. So, the best thing for you to do now is look for other options. Post a dating profile, make an active attempt to meet other girls. Who knows, you may meet someone you like more than her. It could happen. But also...and I've seen this happen in my experience...this may get Erica worried that she's going to lose you and stop treating you like an option.

  • hailey
    Lv 4
    6 years ago

    I think she does like you or else why else would she do these things sometimes girls start liking two guys at the same time and that's when they also get confused about their own feelings and they start sending mixed signals to their crush trust me I've been through kinda like this situation before

    I liked two guys I dated one but I liked the other one more and I just couldn't break up with my bf because I didn't want him to get hurt

    I would say talk to her and tell her how u feel 85% she likes u the last 15% is her and telling u

    Good luck hope I helped

    Thanks for answering mine :)

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  • 6 years ago

    From what i heard i think she likes you but I also think shes loyal to her boyfriend. in my opinion if you seriously like her and want to be with her have a serious conversation about that. let her know that you want her to have what she deserves and tell her you want to be the person that makes her happy. tell her how you feel and what you would do if she gave you the chance. if she says no then move on because sometimes it takes a while for someone to find the right relationship.. just think about what you want and bring it to her. that way you can work on either moving forward in you all relationship or you can accept a friendship. I hope it works out for you :)

  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

    Jimmy Page used to be my idol second only to Freddie Mercury until Zeppelin ended and he put out his attempt at a solo album. It was crap and he can't sing. I lost respect for him. Robert Plant was at least able to make a go at a solo career. Page's try was laughed at by the critics.

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  • 6 years ago

    She basically having the best of both worlds the flirty exciting chase part of a relationship with you.. And keeping her bf aswell . she might like you even love you.I wonder how shed react if your your attention was focussed elsewhere?

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