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I have a problem of sort and i just need to talk to someone to ease my soul.?
Im 24 she is 18. She smokes until she was 17.
We are together for 10 months now. 7 months ago we had a talk and she promised me to stop smoking. I didnt give her ultimatum me or cigarettes she willingly said she wants to stop for me.
She stopped buying boxes. She had a norm of box a week. Now what she does is ask her friends for smokes and even on night out she smokes 20 cigarettes that she grabs from friends. On top of all in front of me.
I started to get really disappointed, yes next day she always tells me "sorry i will stop i promise"...but in 7 months i dont feel she cut it down. And now she asked me if she could buy a box as if i forgot her promise.
When is the time to give her ultimatum? Me or smoke. Im still willing to wait. But im loosing my ground and my heart is breaking with each smoke she lights in front of me (and she knows it hurts me).I feel ive being pulled on my nose. I do not want to live my life with smoker.
How much more months should i "give her" give myself?
2 Answers
- sciencegravyLv 76 years ago
Cigarettes can be harder to kick than heroin. (look it up, it's true)
That said, you have to decide if you can take her as a smoker, or not.
I had that same decision with my spouse. He still smokes, but is down to a couple packs a week. I decided 30 years ago I'd rather live my life with him as a smoker than without him - even acknowledging that I may lose him earlier than I would if he wasn't a smoker.
He did agree to NOT smoke in the house. One cigarette will stink up the place. And outside the front door is no option either, since then the front porch reeks, no matter that it's not enclosed or screened. And he knows he better brush his teeth before trying to romance me.
But no one can make the choice for you. If you give her the ultimatum, be prepared for her to be unable to break the habit. If she's serious, you might suggest she talk to her doctor about medical help with it.
- Anonymous6 years ago
to be honest, she doesn't really deserve any more months. You care about her health and you're own and she clearly doesn't. She's selfish. Sit her down nd give her the ultimatum. How dare she smoke in front of you at that after she knows how you feel.
