My boyfriend doesn't want me to get a job?

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Say goodbye to this controlling jerk now he has no right to tell you that you cannot get a job. Truly it is your life do you want to be with a guy who treats you like some kind of doormat. Many nice guys out there who want a strong and independent woman who wants to work. If anything he don't want you to get a job cause he doesn't want you to see that he is a controlling jerk and a lot of nicer men are available. Most likely this type of man becomes abusive get out while you can no sex the last thing you want is getting pregnant.

If you want to get a job and pursue a career, then that is your right. If he doesn't respect your wishes, then get rid of him and find yourself a new boyfriend.

I don't know if your boyfriend is a chauvinist or he is insecure by the idea of being with a successful woman. Either case, get rid of him if you want to work, make your own money and pursue a career. You can always get another boyfriend who isn't living in the 1950s.

he sound like he is jealous and trying to control you life .. this is a bad sign seen it before .. next he will tell you who you can be friends with and close down on you friend circle. you need to do what is best for you ..get a job if you want one ..at some point in life you have to be able to support you self or you will always be under someone's else's control . It is best you never put your self in a spot where other are telling you what to do .. you parents maybe till you 18 but a boy friend NO ..as they going to do as they want . Your boy friend acting like he owns you not a partner in a relationship 50/50 or get while you can.

Your boyfriend's reaction comes from his own insecurity, don't you dare to think that it is your fault. If you care about him and about your relationship, the solution is simple: just do what all women do: act smart!

STEP 1: DON'T ARGUE WITH HIM, tell him that you understand his point of view!

STEP 2: After a while, tell him that your financial situation is getting worse and ask him if he can provide you with a monthly amount of money (let's say the minimum wage). DON'T SAY ANYTHING ABOUT GOING TO WORK!

STEP 3: If he can do that, just go with it (you are young, so you can wait some more time).

If not,

STEP 4: Stop wearing make-up, doing your nails and your hair and waxing. Also tell him that you don't have money to buy contraceptives anymore.

I have a feeling that he will have second thoughts about not letting you get a job. :)

Listen doll, don't ever ever EVER let anyone keep you from being independent. Your boyfriend seems to have many insecurities, but the only person who can help him with those is himself. You have a right to go out, get a job, and start making your own money. Not only that, but your boyfriend should trust you enough to let you go out and do your own thing. I think you should bring it up again and if he gets so upset that he starts a fight about it, then it may be time to break up and move on. I hope everything works out for you.

Stop letting him control. If you want a job get a job. He's being clingy, controlling and possibly sexist depending on his reasoning.

Get a job if that's what you want. if he doesn't like it then he can leave.

He's only turning 18. That's very young. Why rush him into getting a job? School is more important.

Honestly this makes me angry. (Not at you) Why the hell should you do what he wants its your life stand on your own two feet, be an individual and live your own life. Maybe you should gind someone better bc if he loved you he would support you. Maybe hes the obstacle keeping you from the person your supposed to be with that you meet at your job. Life doesnt revolve around him so i think you should toughen up and live your life and if he wants to be apart of it he'll learn to accept what you decide. Hope I helped. :)

Tell him that he should just halt being completely manipulative of you and to mind his own business. He also sounds like a tool and you're better off without him in your life.