Should a bride's mother attend the bachelorette party?

I dont see why not. A lot of people just go to the spa and go have some drinks or go clubbing. I dont see any moral or etiquette impediment to invite one's mother to a fun weekend with the women that you care.

I think it really depends on the relationship the bride and mother have, as well as the party that is planned. I definitely don't think it's strange for a mother to be involved, so long as the bride wants her there. My bachelorette party was so low-key... A few girlfriends having dinner, listening to some live music and just chatting. My mom would have been totally comfortable there, and I would have enjoyed having her if she didn't also enjoy going to sleep so early. A Vegas weekend away full of partying and get smashed would have been a different story.

I think it depends on a number of factors - mainly, how close the bride is with her mother and what sort of party she's having. My future SIL invited her mother, future MIL and aunts from both families to her bachelorette party - we went out for dinner and went bowling (with some drinks thrown in for good measure lol). I know what my friends are like, so have told them that they can do whatever they want later on in the night but I would like either an afternoon or dinner first that is appropriate for some of my older female relatives (my mum and future MIL included) and for my bridesmaid sister (who is only 13) to participate in. Many people I know have invited their mothers to either the whole bachelorette or they have come to just a portion of it (such as the dinner). I don't see any problem with it at all - if the bride is happy and mum is happy, where's the harm?

I was invited to the dinner part of my daughter's bachelorette party and the politely excused in the parking lot while she and her friends went off to the real party. As they all sped off in their cars, I felt like excess baggage and wondered why I went at all. I guess it's up to the bride but if fathers are invited to the bachelor party then the mothers should be invited to the bachelorette. The trouble is, girls want everything these days.

It depends on the type of event, really. Bachelorette dos can be anything from a harmless afternoon of mani-pedis to an all night pub crawl. Some are even structured so that older relatives come along for part of an evening (say, to dinner) and bow out before anything they mightn't want to know about happens. My mum was invited to my sister's bachelorette, but wisely declined.

This question has me perplexed. On one hand I invited my MIL to mine and she attended. But now 25 years later, my daughter has invited me to hers and I don't know what to do. We are close, the wedding is in Vegas, evening consists of massage and dinner only. She has expressed that she very much wants me to be there because she feels she won't have much other time to spend with me. (We live 50 miles apart and both work full time.) I want to be there for her, but I'm not into hanging out with her friends. Could make alternate plans with her for another time, but don't want my absence to be a negative when her bachelorette party becomes a memory.

It must be a cultural/regional thing, because your answers are always so sensible. I've never seen a mother at a hens' party (as we call them here in Australia); and I've probably been to 20 or so. It's nothing to do with the activities - which are mostly pretty tame among my friends - but simply the dynamics change when you have your mother rather than just your friends and sister(s).

It's up to the bride. I would never hang out with my mom in a social setting like that. She's great and all, but I don't want to hang out with her. If the bride is close to her mom, I don't see why not. My daughter is 9 and I hope she and I have that kind of relationship when she's an adult. I would love to come celebrate with her at her bachelorette party.

I don't know anyone whose mom came to their bachelorette party. Me and my group of friends aren't close like that with our parents I guess.

Usually the brides mother attends the shower as do all female relatives and family friends. she could attend the bach party depending upon what it is, where it is and if the bridesmaids include her. a bach party is usually for the peers those around the same age as the bride

That's up to the individual.